After clear observation of so many actions I thought of taken, so many ideas I wanted to implement and all people around, I see that it is only “commitment” that is needed from any one to do almost anything.
You want to do good in job? Or setup a business, or be a doctor or something else, what ever it is all we need is commitment.
We have so many problems for doing every thing. Money, Time, Health, friends, contacts or some thing else, we say we don’t have. Solutions to all those problems are also there, infact we have many solutions to every single problem we have.
So why we are not taking the solutions and implementing? because we lack commitment. If we have commitment, one of the solution will surly be found and we can move on. As long as problem is not Commitment, there is no problem at all.
Even though I have so many dreams, I want to commit to one thing, Give the world the best accounting software. Better than anything else. After that I will look into my other dreams. But I will keep dreaming.
I feel guilty
- when ever I say I will do ‘so and so’ and did nothing about it.
- for using some one without properly rewarding them for it.
- did shout at some one, and learned that it(not shouting) was actually my mistake.
Of these, the first one is causing lot of pain these days. In last one year I think I might have booked more than 4 domain names for doing different kind of things. Most of all are dead now, I am not doing anything. The reason is simple to explain. I expected more out of my small acts. I stopped at the first sight of trouble.
Luckily, I do get lot of new ideas, and hopefully will try to work on some thing very seriously. Commitment is very imp for people like me.
What about you guys? Same story?
I will try to tell in simple terms.
- I don’t care if PM is in or out. If some one is worried, then let PM be out.
- I don’t even care if Judiciary is in or out, and if some one is worried, keep them out.
- Is every Govt officer is in its radar? If not make it big enough to put every one.
- We need it at every stage, center, state, district.
- Don’t waste time on useless arguments about one are two people in or out. Think about the majority.
- If you want to do fasting, then do it for speedy proceeding to bring the law into action.
Finally I agree that I am the lazy stupid who did not do anything to support the anti-corruption movement. (Yet)
Like most of other people I do expect the or or more of the following from my friends.
- Inspiration
- Knowledge
- Wisdom
- Consistency
- Trust
- Entertainment
Let me explain each one a little.
Inspiration:
I am basically a dreamer. I dream to do some thing. But may not be putting my total effort into it. If my friend is doing some thing like that, it will be a lot of inspiration for me. It might be in any category*. I love to copy. What i am is almost because of what I copied from others.
Knowledge:
This used to be very big point for me till now. But now it is reducing its importance. Because what ever we want to know is almost there on Google. But it is still a very big thing for me. A friend should be a source of some knowledge(The one I care about).
Wisdom:
Even with all these knowledge we can not do good without proper wisdom. It is nothing to do what what we know. It is all about applying what we already know. How we react to simple and complex things. This is what makes character of a person. I expect wisdom from my friends.
Consistency:
Without it, we are sure that we will not reach our goals. We 100 things try 1 but that too we don’t do it as we thought of doing. We say one thing and ignore it after some days. Here is where I need help from a friend. If I say some thing which I can not do, then better they force me to think twice. And once I said I will do, better they force me to stick with it. Of course it is very difficult to decide when to force and when to allow. That requires wisdom on their part.
Trust:
Without it we don’t call it friendship right. We must have absolute trust on each others words and deeds (Not abilities).
Entertainment:
A source of entertainment. We spend a lot of time thinking of how to enjoy, but most of the times we don’t find any. A good discussion with a friend is a very good source of entertainment. There can be many other things too.
Ramesh told me this 2 days back as a summary of the all the knowledge in one sentence. Yes, I agree with it.
I have tried to use Facebook many times, stopped using in between and again went to it. But I was never happy. The problem which you all may know is ….
Every friend is same. What I post will be shared with every one. Which is useless for 90% of my friends. At any time I post things which are relevant only to 10 to 15 % my friends.
I have tried to see if there is any groups concept. I was not able find.
Then I thought if there is some thing to beet FB, then I think some thing which provides this feature. And I am right.
I believe that Google+ is exactly what I have been waiting for. And there will be massive shift of users from Facebook to Google+. It will reach Facebook user levels in a rapid speed, a speed 10 times faster than the Android adoption.
Then I thought, Is it possible that Facebook introduces this features sooner and save some users? I don’t think that is possible. People are happy with the thought of moving on. They need some thing to move on to. It is in our nature. And I don’t think it is easy for FB to imitate Google+. It is not technical issue, it is philosophy.
That is why I said “This too shell pass” (Facebook).
Eagerly waiting for Google+ account.
It is the main act that many people associate me with. Till now it was the primary way of expressing my unhappiness. In my last post I said I am trying to control it.
Seems like other than at home I was successful so far. Now at home also I will practice this. Next time I shout, my wife will get what ever she wants on the next day. Seems like a pretty good idea for me. Lets see how many occasions she will get me to do things I don’t want to do.
If there is some thing that I ever wanted to change in me, it is my tendency of getting angry with people. There are two sides of me. One side I think I am much more patient than many other people in many situations. Other side I know that I am very much impatient when dealing with some situations.
I want to change myself in the way I express my unhappyness to others.
It does not mean that I don’t express unhappyness. It only means the way of expression will be much more easy to handle for others.
I have some plans of how to do it. Do you have any suggestions? What do you do when you get angry? Or when your expectations are not met by others?
Even though no one have suggested much in reply to my previous post, I started some changes my self.
Today I went for morning jogging/running. Hope to continue it always. For that I need to get up at 6AM for that I need to sleep before 11PM.
So the changes for today are….
- Sleep before 11PM
- Get up before 6AM
- Go for Running or do Exercises
Oh wait, Sleep before 11PM means no second shows. Is it possible? I don’t think so. My wife will kill me. Anyway as we don’t see more than two per month, I think we can getup late on those days.
Wish me strength to maintain the consistency. I strongly believe consistency is crucial in life. If we have it, we are kings.
There are lot of things I should have done, but did not do till now. There are lot of things I wanted to do but did not do yet. There is a lot which I should not have done, but was done.
I want to know if there is any one who can spend 15min or so thinking for me, and tell me what to do. My goal is simple. I want to be a happy man, responcible towards society, and rich at the same time. Other than this I hope you may have some idea of what I want anyway. And there are things which you can tell to anyone without knowing anything about them.
Here are some things which I think I should be working on…
- Improve Health
- Enjoy most of the time
- Get some friends, who can spend time thinking about me
- Increase social participation
- Increase investments in Business & Technology
And the order or priority is also as mentioned.
Now, the question is, tell me what I should be doing. If you need any more information, send me a mail or msg. I will contact you and will get your suggestions directly. If you want to keep them private, send to my mail id. Else post them here.
Update:
It seems many have misunderstood what I am asking here. I am not asking you to change the priorities that I have listed here. I am not asking to choose some of them.
What I am actually asking is to tell me what I need to do to achieve all above points.
For example
Increase Health: Get up at 6AM, Do exercises, Don’t drink cool drinks, Become Vegetarian etc..
Enjoy most of the time: Read so and so book, Mediate for some time, See so and so director movies, Get friends etc.
As you see, I am asking for specific things to do. Things I should be able to do if I choose to. Clear specific steps of what to do and what not to do. Do not tell me generic steps which have multiple meanings and multiple interpretations.
Recently I got an interesting(or stupid) idea. If there is any interview that you would like to take to select a candidate to be your friend, what kind of questions will we ask?
Even thought I kept thinking about it a bit, did not get enough list in mind to start writing. But now, I want to make this list, so that I can present it to some one and make some friend(if it works)
Let us assume that we don’t know the person at all and this is the first time we are talking. Let us also assume that this interview is being done online in a chat or email. More restrictions make this interesting? I think so.
Here is my list of questions.. Lets see if I can declare a person as worthy as a friend just from answers to these questions.
- Who are your top 5 friends and why?
I have seen people who call anyone they know as friends. Good for them. But my definition of friendship is not that broad. The question of ‘Why’ makes it really important. Many people think that friendship does not expect anything in return. But I do not agree. For me, there must be some use of being some one as friend. Over some time period that use may grow or reduce. Depending on that we talk to them. We may still say that he/she is your friend. Actually what we mean is he/she was your friend. Those reasons really explain to me what that person is expecting from others. The kind of existing friends give me hint if they will like me as a friend.
- Do you read books? What kind of books?
Books are really important for me. Even though I don’t read too many books, I do read some and I believe that there is a really good chance that some one who reads books(a decent amount) makes a good friend for me. The kind of books they read gives lot of hints into their mindset.
- What is your opinion on God? And how strong are you on your opinion?
I would better not explain why I am asking this question.
- If you can have 5 wishes and you will get what you will ask for, What would you really ask?
Even though it looks silly, for me it tells a lot.
- When did you last change yourself? And why?
It is difficult to explain why I am asking this.
Now the question is, who will read all this and care to answer me such complex and long questions. I don’t know, who have that much patience these days. And what will they get from my friendship? Hopefully they have an idea of what to expect from some one.
If any one have such list, I am happy to answer them for you. Send me your list.
If I find that answers to these questions are not enough, then I will put my second round of interview.
