Travel to the hearts of the people

December 31st, 2016 Comments off

We all know many people who like to travel. I am not one of them. I am not afraid of travel. Only that I don’t get enough return at the end of the journey or while in the journey. Traveling 10hr to reach to a place and enjoy the plane enough to forget the pains of travel, is almost impossible for me. Those who can are lucky people, they know a way to enjoy which I can not.

But I think I know even better way. For me people are far more important then places. I never saw a photo of a place and have a instant feeling of wanting to be there. Never felt it. May be there is some disconnection in my brain related to those parts.

I think my lack of visual memory is a bit to blame here with places. I don’t remember any specific places we visualize it fully. Every thing I see becomes like a text and gets stored in the brain. I know I have seen some place, I can even recognize it. But It will loose all its visual information once I close my eyes.

But I have seen many people or known about them with whom I want to spend time. In a way it is much harder task than visiting places. With places it is kind of one side conversation. People do have feelings, they have emotions, knowledge, experience etc. What we can share with a person can never be done with a place. A place does not know what you feel about it. You like it or not, it will still be there. They do change, but you are just a spectator to its change. You have no say in its change.

With people, it is totally different. Every person changes us and we change them. Some positive some negative. It all depends on how we want to change. Even if we don’t change, experience of being with some one makes us rich. Rich with knowledge.

So here is my crazy plan.

Live with different people every 2 weeks. Eating with them sleeping with them(well, not that way), going to offices, share personal feelings, opinions, problems, solutions, ideas etc. In a way be part of the family for total duration.

I lived with other people in hostels or in relatives homes when I am kid. But after I have grown up, it never happened.
Some of us live with friends in rooms, hostels. But most of the times our friends are just like us. Mostly the perspective will be same. I would like to make it as diverse as possible.

A single mom, Young couple, A Couple with one or two young kids, A Doctor, A Lawyer, A Scientist, A Mathematician, A Programmer, A Banker, A Receptionist, Different Country(s), Different Language(s),Different economic background(s) and so on. There are different kinds in each of these, so the possibilities are endless. I prefer all these people to be either a family, or couple or single women. No more single guys (Sorry guys). Being with single guys is always possible and does not seem that much challenging (and interesting).

So if you want to join this crazy experiment and want to invite me, please contact me. Or you can always suggest some interesting people you know about it. May be your friends are interested.

During the stay I can pay for all my expenses and also contribute to collective expenses. In case if you are wondering I will not be making any moves in the direction of love, sex etc. I can adjust in all kinds of environments. Will try to keep my health as top priority, other than that you wont be facing any issues from my side. I will share every thing openly(if you are okey to receive). You can share anything with me, and all your secrets will remain secret. I will be writing about my experience during and after. You can find out what a third person thinks about any of your stuff(things, feelings, ideas etc). I will give you feedback, suggestions. (in the writing which I will publish). I will anonymize all information about you(Optional).

The reason for choosing 2 weeks is to make it long enough to know a person fully. When we meet for single day, we all act. And I want to know real you, so it takes time. And it is not long enough to get bored(I hope). And if it gets bored, we can reduce it to 1 week.

After end of each experience, I believe I will be having one more friend or a family friends to count on. Not every relation lasts, many do.

What do you think? Are you in?

Open Heart with Rajesh – 2

September 23rd, 2016 Comments off

This is continuation of the previous post with some more questions. One or two questions might repeat, hopefully they present you different prospectives of me.
Question 85): What’s more important,  truth or happiness. Why?
Ans: Happiness. Most of others do not have mental capacity to take truth

Question 86): Would you rather be rich or famous (can’t be both)?
Ans: Rich. I don’t need them actually. So between those rich is better choice.

Question 87): Why not famous ?
Ans: I don’t want to spend my time thinking about others. Being famous forces. It gives no value to my self.

Question 88): You believe it is vital to everyday life to know what is happening in the world around you? Explain.
Ans: A bit. But The definition of world around matters. Most people read useless news paper to know stuff that is of no value. Need to know big trends in state, country, and world. Mostly technology. Small details about which cinema for how much collections, which politician said what is useless.

Question 89): Knowing about technology is enough?
Ans: Mostly enough

Question 90): World is only technology? You mean other than technology everything is useless?
Ans: I read only tech news and they cover what I need from other areas also. Like overview of other stuff. You need very less of other stuff.

Question 91): Its better to learn about technology,  right?
Ans: Yes, Science and technology. Unless knowing other stuff is entertainment for you

Question 92): What are your career goals in 5, 10 and 15 years?
Ans: None. I have no career goals. I just started my career, and yet to get connected with that word.

Question 93): If you were told only had a week left to live,  what would you do?
Ans: Purpose to two or there girls first. Then if time is there write some thing down.

Question 94): Write something?
Ans: Not sure. Mostly will not get time. Would like to experience love.

Question 95): Did you ever do something that you didn’t want to,  just to fit in?
Ans: Yes, attend meetings in office. Not to fit it, but had to. Never did if that is optional. Did things not to hurt others. But that does not count as fit in. Never did anything to fit in I think.

Question 96): Will you do? Just to fit in?
Ans: No

Question 97): Are there any causes that you strongly- believe in?
Ans: Not sure what counts as causes

Question 98): What is the thing that you strongly believe?
Ans: This is meta question. Most of other answers are derivations from this. If you want short one… “Nothing matters”

Question 99): If you try any job for one day what would you choose?
Ans: Minister of education for state.

Question 100): How you would like the education system should be?
Ans: More choices, teach how to solve real problems

Question 101): What is the rank you are giving for present system?
Ans: 2 Out of 10

Question 102): you want others to know about you 100%? or what is now is enough?
Ans: I don’t mind if they know. But I post as it is no -ve for me. It may even add a bit. May help some girl to find me.

Question 103): What are you tired of hearing about?
Ans: Not getting many candidates to choose from. I normally avoid people who talk what I don’t like. May be I will answer later when I get in mind.

Question 104): What were you really into when you were younger but now think is silly?
Ans: I wanted to become a ‘Sanyasi’. I believed in god etc. And I blame Vivekananda for it. Or who ever written those books which are published under his name.

Question 105): What is the highest pressure situation you have experienced and how did you handle it?
Ans: I don’t remember much . But I think delivering or releasing some project long back. The feel pressure when I owe someone(money, compliance, code). I hate that feeling. I don’t remember how I did. Mostly okey I think. I try not to owe anything to anyone.⁠⁠⁠⁠

Question 106): What’s something you were really stressed about, it turned out to be no big deal?
Ans: Most of govt compliance issues. We just need to delegate it to some one who knows how to do.Now learned not to take them serious. There will be some procedure to handle it. and can be done.

Question 107): my question is different I think
Ans: Do not remember any one particular incident. Never got that much stressed on anything else

Question 108): what three events made the biggest impact on you who are you today?
Ans: 1. Buying my first computer. 2. Sending “hi” msg to my wife 3. Quitting +2 and joining Diploma. Thinking rational is biggest one, but that is not one time event

Question 109): What you choose: give up once lost the  patience or wait for the  result?
Ans: wrong question I think. if you loose patience then any one one will give up. If waiting means not given up. But most of the times, I give up some things and some I wait. But those I wait are my irrational behaviours that deal with my feelings. And those I give up are the mostly rational financial decisions.

Question 110): Can you wait for long?
Ans: I think I can wait for long compared to many others.

Question 111): What is the biggest doubt you have?
Ans: What do girls think? 🙂 or to be specific “what does she think”

Question 112): What do you think you know a lot about but probably don’t?
Ans: in other side, can I learn math if I start from scratch again? Actually this is also wrong question. Only way I can answer something to this is that if I just realized that I don’t know something. If I answer A, then it means I know that I probably dont. So I will not think I know a lot.

Question 113): What one question can you ask someone to find out the most about them?
Ans: What are the list of 4 questions which you want to ask some one to select them as your life partner?

Question 114): What do you think was silly until you tried it?
Ans: None. I never tried anything that is contradicting my views. And even if I try it rarely happened that I changed my view.

Question 115): What’s the most unusual but fun experience you’ve had?
Ans: Walking on road without shirt. May be not that much fun. Seems like not done enough things in life.

Question 116): Which aspect of your life is going really well right now and which aspect could you see help with?
Ans: Almost all except finding girlfriend are going fine. Only need help in that part. And maths. See even if the question is different, answers are coming as same.

Question 117): What was the most awkward conversation you ever had with someone?
Ans: When I had to convince a girl not to take serious note of who gave her number 🙂 (after she rejected for lunch/dinner).

Question 118): What fact do you try to ignore?
Ans: Good question. The near zero probability of finding a girl friend with the qualities I need.

Question 119): What simple change could you make in your life that would have the biggest positive impact?
Ans: Just started one experiment. For one year I will not hurt anyone with my words. Made a list of ~20 things to do while dealing with people. Hopefully it should removing the reputation that I am harsh. Started 3 days back. It is very easy to do actually. I will post the list in the blog.

Question 120): What job doesn’t exist but should?
Ans: Rationality finder. A consultant who questions all our irrational behaviours

Question 121): What do most of the people think about you that is totally untrue?
Ans: That I am anti social.

Question 122): What high level do you think you could lie your way into with no experience?
Ans: I can not lie. I am not comfortable.

Question 123): What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?
Ans: Being happy most of the time. And I think I can build some impressive software but not sure exactly what it will do. 😀
Question 124): ⁠⁠⁠What is something most people do easily but you find very difficult?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Talk to people as if they care.
Question 125): ⁠⁠⁠What is something that many people take seriously but should not?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠What others think of them. Unless it directly impacts them.
Question 126): ⁠⁠⁠What is something that you have never told anyone?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠None. I told everything.
Question 127): ⁠⁠⁠What is your nemesis?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠What does that mean?
Question 128): ⁠⁠⁠What you hate most?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Bulshit
Question 129): ⁠⁠⁠Do you believe in love at first sight? 😊
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No, ⁠⁠⁠I believe in dreams at first sight. 🙂
Question 130): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the best thing about being male?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Probability of getting raped is less, and no problem with periods. Nothing else.
Question 131): ⁠⁠⁠What double standard is ridiculous and needs to be ended?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Girls saying that boys want them for external beauty, and they do all the things just to attract them with that beauty only. This is not a big thing, but that is only thing getting in mind.
Question 132): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most disgusting habit you have?
Ans: None.
Question 133): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most interesting piece if trivia you know?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Most of the people fake their knowledge, seems like others act as they value it even if they know it.
Question 134): ⁠⁠⁠What is society doing now that in 20 years will be laughed at and ridiculed?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠buying cars
Question 135): ⁠⁠⁠Why do you think buying cars?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠in 20 years self driving cars will be there, and they will come when needed. no one will buy cars then. ⁠⁠⁠maybe people will still buy them, but driving cars is laughed at. ⁠⁠⁠will be
Question 136): ⁠⁠⁠Who are some people you only met once but they left a big impression on you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠None. I never remember anyone whom I met only once.
Question 137): ⁠⁠⁠Would you rather always be 10 minutes late or always be 20 minutes early?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠20min early
Question 138): ⁠⁠⁠What would constitute a ‘perfect’ day for you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Spending a day in discussions and planning a project which involves a clever solution. Or talking total day with a girl having interesting view of life.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I treat both at equal.
Question 139): ⁠⁠⁠I think by these answers many can know your interest towards girls.
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠but those who read does not need it. they already know. ⁠⁠⁠Those who need to read it wont read as they dont know it exists.
Question 140): ⁠⁠⁠Can i paste your blog link to any?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Sure, ⁠⁠⁠Anyone. ⁠⁠⁠It is public
Question 141): ⁠⁠⁠What is the probability of beauty you see?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Means?
Question 142): ⁠⁠⁠How girl should look like?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Confident and healthy.⁠⁠⁠If beauty is not there, then extra care has to go to dressing
Question 143): ⁠⁠⁠Not clear
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not sure what to tell then. ⁠⁠⁠Ask again
Question 144): ⁠⁠⁠You want a good looking girl? ⁠⁠⁠Her beauty matters?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Decent enough is needed. ⁠⁠⁠Beauty matters when minds are same. ⁠⁠⁠But mind matters when beauty is same. ⁠⁠⁠80:20 mind vs beauty. ⁠⁠⁠Beauty is only needed when person is far. If near, then only mind matters mostly. ⁠⁠⁠But as there is no way to judge mind from distance I can only see beauty.
Question 145): ⁠⁠⁠Do you agree that a woman’s mind is most difficult to understand?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I don’t think so. ⁠⁠⁠Should be same. May be due to culture they became closed entities. They can not openly speak what they need or want may be
Question 146): ⁠⁠⁠Are you changing as fast as the world around us?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Much faster than in some aspects, slow in other. ⁠⁠⁠Faster than others in some aspects.
Question 147): ⁠⁠⁠How do you define patience and humbleness?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Patience is valuing your relationship than your time. Humbleness is realizing that we/ what we have is the result of other people or just luck.
Question 148): ⁠⁠⁠What roles do love and affection play in your life?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Very less actually. I normally don’t show much affection. And I don’t do any major thing just because I love some one.
Question 149): ⁠⁠⁠What is the biggest dream you have to be fulfilled?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Building a AI machine.
Question 150): ⁠⁠⁠In the past few months,  what is the smallest change you have made that has had biggest positive result?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Last week stopped shouting at people. Other than that did not make any changes.
Question 151): ⁠⁠⁠what are the most important decisions you make as a leader of your organization?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Investing in Machine Learning, VR, AR. Also that training is much more important than just telling them. (still need to act on these)
Question 152): ⁠⁠⁠What’s your philosophy in life?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠There is no meaning to life. So we just have to create our own. So mine is “be happy while doing interesting things. ”
Question 153): ⁠⁠⁠Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I never thought what I wanted to do after I grow up. OR I don’t remember. I don’t plan what I wanted to do after 5 years. ⁠⁠⁠I make long term plans, but never plan what specific thing I want to do.
Question 154): ⁠⁠⁠What are you most thankful for?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Rationality
Question 155): ⁠⁠⁠Do you believe in second chances?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I believe many more chances
Question 156): ⁠⁠⁠How do you define honesty?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Valuing word that is given more than many other things.
Question 157): ⁠⁠⁠What you are trying to prove to yourself,  and how might it be hijacking your life and business success?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Was trying to prove that I can create interesting products. I won’t consider life as something that is not me. So trying to prove it self is life. In business for losses till now. But its okey. We did what we could. ⁠⁠⁠Never tried to prove anything that is not part of my regular life or business
Question 158): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the next big thing you have coming up?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nothing concrete yet. Still in planning and preparation stages. ⁠⁠⁠Mostly AR + ML
Question 159): ⁠⁠⁠Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Middle
Question 160): ⁠⁠⁠Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything?
Ans: No one person to talk to all aspects. Mostly ⁠⁠⁠Wife and Kisor.
Question 161): ⁠⁠⁠What is one quality you admire most in others?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Passion to learn and improve.
Question 162): ⁠⁠⁠What is something you learned in school that you think is useless today?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Telugu
Question 163): ⁠⁠⁠Is your favourite time is past,    present or future?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Future
Question 164): ⁠⁠⁠What is the main thing that makes you unique?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No one thing makes any one unique. It is the mixture is unique. ⁠⁠⁠One thing I mainly noticed recently is the ability to question others when every one else is thinking opposite to you.
Question 165): ⁠⁠⁠What does it mean to have courage?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Courage is doing things knowing that it may fail
Question 166): ⁠⁠⁠If we learn from our mistakes,  why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Very less number of people learn from mistakes. Also those who learn from mistakes are not afraid. Also people who are afraid to make mistakes, think that they have some thing more to loose than gain if they make mistake.
Question 167): ⁠⁠⁠What is your idea? You agree with learning from mistakes?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Yes, but lifetime is no enough if we have to learn in that way. There are much more easier ways, learn from other peoples mistakes.⁠⁠⁠People write about it books, articles etc. talk to them and see if there is anything to learn. Also no matter what we read some mistakes we have to do ourself. As no two people are same and what you feel in once situation is not same as what other person feels.
Question 168): ⁠⁠⁠How do you know your perceptions are real?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠We can not know. We just have to trust the perceptions. Scientifically there is no proven way to know. ⁠⁠⁠If there are other people then you can know from them. But in that case real or not depends on if your perceptions are same as them. we can never know if both arte real or not.
Question 169): ⁠⁠⁠What are you like when you don’t get what you want?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Little irritated. Will try to plan a different way of getting, and after long time may be accept that I can not get it.
Question 170): ⁠⁠⁠Do you make your own decisions or let others make them for you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I make my own on important issues. Anything non important I delegate. ⁠⁠⁠Also it depends on the capacity of the people around me. if I find some one better for the task, I prefer to delegate. ⁠⁠⁠Trust on their capacity is needed.
Question 171): ⁠⁠⁠What is the truth and reality according to you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Truth is fact. Reality is the base line perception that we all combinely establish as fact.
Question 172): ⁠⁠⁠Is it easier to love or be loved?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠It is easier to love. ⁠⁠⁠Anything in our control is easy, and anything not in our control is difficult.
Question 173): ⁠⁠⁠Does observation alter an event?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Except in quantum mechanics, I believe it does not alter in other aspects.
Question 174): ⁠⁠⁠Are you open to new ways of looking at things even if they conflict with your own opinions?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Always open to look in new ways. If it is with a person, I am willing if other person have spent more time studying it. If they are just followers of a particular belief then mostly I wont pay much attention to them. ⁠⁠⁠Not interested in looking in new ways of scientifically proven topics..  More interested in any other non scientific aspects. (people, relations)
Question 175): ⁠⁠⁠What would you do differently if you knew no body would judge you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠1. Will not iron my dress. 2. Will not change my way of talking. I will be more frank 3. Will ask many more girls for dating. 4. May be will remove all hair, (on head)
Question 176): ⁠⁠⁠Now you are stopping to ask for date because Someone will judgr you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠That is the only reason, otherwise why will I stop.
Question 177): ⁠⁠⁠Is there something you stopped doing,  even though you love it?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not anything that I can recollect. Even if there is something, it might be with other people and only reason I stopped doing might be because other person is not interested. it might be talking or friendship or doing some things together.
Question 178): ⁠⁠⁠When is it time to stop calculating risk & rewards, and just go ahead do what you know is right?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠only when you don’t know how to calculate or there is not enough time to calculate.
Question 179): ⁠⁠⁠Are you doing what you believe in or Are you settling for what you are doing?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I am doing what I believe in.
Question 180): ⁠⁠⁠If money cannot buy happiness. Can you ever be truly happy with no money?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Money can buy happiness to some extent. Also it is good at giving short term happiness. Ans yes it is possible to be happy with no money if at least you have basic needs met. But without basic needs address, no I dont think it is possible to be happy. Again here also same rule applies. it may be possible to have short term happiness even if you are hungry and poor. But long term happiness needs basic requirements. After that it shifts the other way.
Question 181): ⁠⁠⁠That means you agree with money can buy happiness in some cases, right?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Yes. I believe that. It depends on the present state of the person. And what kind of happiness we are looking for.
Question 182): ⁠⁠⁠But not that money only can buy happiness, Right?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Right. after having lots of money, an apple will give more pleasure than getting 1000$.
Question 183): ⁠⁠⁠What advice would you give to someone just starting out trying to do what you’re doing?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Keep your expenses to a level so that you can get that much by doing what you want to do. ⁠⁠⁠Then try to get the enjoyment from what ever they like doing. Concentrate on process and not goal. If no money is there in bank, then pay insurance for sure.
Question 184): ⁠⁠⁠If you had to choose a totally different career/path,  what would it be?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I would prefer to be a doctor. Not a certified person by some organization, but a self made doctor and a bio medical researcher.
Question 185): ⁠⁠⁠What do you dream about most often?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I don’t remember my dreams. I day dream about the outcomes of my projects and also about girls 🙂
Question 186): ⁠⁠⁠How’s it different than you expected?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠no difference
Question 187): ⁠⁠⁠What are 5 things you want more of right now? (could be physical things,  characteristics,  ideas, anything)
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠1. Math Skills, 2. Companions 3. Little more patience when dealing with people
Question 188): ⁠⁠⁠No more?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠nope.
Question 189): ⁠⁠⁠If crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else,  what would you want to know?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nothing.
Question 190): ⁠⁠⁠Is it worse to fail at something  or never attempt it in the first place?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Never attempting in first place.
Question 191): ⁠⁠⁠Where is the line between insanity and creativity?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠If you can make other people believe in your insanity, then it is called creativity. Else it remains as insanity.
Question 192): ⁠⁠⁠Should people care more about doing the right thing or doing things right?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠doing the right things.
Question 193): ⁠⁠⁠What is your current state of mind?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠hungry.
Question 194): ⁠⁠⁠What is your motto?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Dont have one. Maybe “enjoy life”.
Question 195): ⁠⁠⁠Is there a type of work environment you prefer?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠yes, where people will work even if they are not being paid for doing it.
Question 196): ⁠⁠⁠What is your most marked characteristic?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠’Naluguriki Nachinadi nakasaleika nachaduro’. May be not that much extent, but mostly thinking different and doing different.
Question 197): ⁠⁠⁠What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠This one is covered before. Running Vimukti this long.
Question 198): ⁠⁠⁠Are you an emotional person or a materialistic person?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I am not both of these.
Question 199): ⁠⁠⁠Tell me the best way you know to start a conversation with girls?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I don’t think I know even one way
Question 200): ⁠⁠⁠What are you doing to know? Reading books?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nope, I have one new idea. Can not tell it now. Will tell you later
Question 201): ⁠⁠⁠Something that you look forward to in the future? what is it?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠being able to have same level of optimism for ever
Question 202): ⁠⁠⁠Do you believe that a girl should always earn less than her man? 😉
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I prefer the opposite. Always it is my dream to enjoy with my girl’s money. 🙂
Question 203): ⁠⁠⁠Do you ever dream of winning nobel prize?  If yes,  for what?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No, I don’t think I am worth.
Question 204): ⁠⁠⁠What do you think about livein relationship?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Looking forward to it.
Question 205): ⁠⁠⁠what is your opinion on it?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠It is good. I prefer it to more than marriage. ⁠⁠⁠It is nothing different than marriage. only that marriage is for external people. (and law). other than that every thing else remains same. ⁠⁠⁠And actually it makes people more careful in choosing the partner.
Question 206): ⁠⁠⁠But marriage will be with single girl. ⁠⁠⁠In Livein you can choose multiple.⁠⁠⁠There is difference in marriage and livein. What do u say?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠That is why I prefer live in. if it is multiple or not.⁠⁠⁠And I prefer multiple people, I don’t think the basic need for which we marry someone can only be satisfied if it is only one person.
Question 207): ⁠⁠⁠So you choose live in
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Yes, ⁠⁠⁠I got married before I came to this conclusion.
Question 208): ⁠⁠⁠Otherwise you would have asked for live in?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Marriage is financial insurance. Most people dont need that. ⁠⁠⁠Yes.
Question 209): ⁠⁠⁠But if she didnt agreed for livein? ⁠⁠⁠Will u compromise?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠May be that is why I did. And it depends on the person.
Question 210): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most expensive thing that you have bought for yourself?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Surface Pro 3. Around 60k
Question 211): ⁠⁠⁠Bought to others?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Bought Laptop and IPad to wife
Question 212): ⁠⁠⁠How do you define good relationship?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Having lot of trust in each other, understanding each other with single word, or some times without words.
Question 213): ⁠⁠⁠Who has had the most influence in your life?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠This is already covered. Mostly my brother.
Question 214): ⁠⁠⁠What is the worst advice you’ve ever taken?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Buy a house. Oh sorry. never taken any. ⁠⁠⁠Just they gave.
Question 215): ⁠⁠⁠Why you feel it as worst?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠It is worst for me. I don’t need a house, It is just some place to live. We can not eat a house. I don’t get happiness from it. And even if I get, I don’t need to buy it, I can get it much cheaper if I rent it. ⁠⁠⁠Also I don’t understand, if people spend 30 lakhs for a just cement, how much they should spend on internal things? Normally they spend around 5lakhs for furniture. I think I want it to have 50:50.
Question 216): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Don’t remember.
Question 217): ⁠⁠⁠So no idea buy a house
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠nope
Question 218): ⁠⁠⁠What do you think about the current state of economy?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I don’t think about it.
Question 219): ⁠⁠⁠What the habit you’re proudest of breaking completely?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Never had any habits that are worth breaking.
— These are question from another friend —

Question 220): If you are asked not to work on anything related to IT what would you like to do for a living.
Ans: I will become a doctor. Bio Medical Research + Genetic engineering etc

Question 221): If you are alone in an island and it’s forever how would you spend a day?
Ans: 2hrs exercise, 3hrs gathering food, 2hrs cooking, 8 hrs sleeping, rest of the time building/making something.

Question 222): If a girl/guy has 100 rs how do you want her to use it. Different or same is fine
Ans: I would assume to be spent in same way. What ever does not make sense for a guy, mostly will not make sense for a girl too.

Question 223): What do u think r the good and bad things of Indian marriage
Ans: The good thing is, You don’t have to work too hard to find good match. Others will do that for you. But that applies if you are lazy enough not to make the most important decision in your life. Bad thing is, most of the people in that marriage think it is something that should not be broken. Some spend endless years of internal suffering while trying to ask to look happy for outsiders. I don’t think it is specific to Indian Marriage. It applies to anyone who values others opinion more than their own.

Question 224): Other than technology what can a girl/guy learn by spending time with you?
Ans: Very good question. Ability to question things, learning when to question and how to question. Meaning of life, rational decision making, how to be driven in life, how to be happy, how to look from other person’s perspective, empathy and seeing things in 3rd person’s view.


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Open Heart with Rajesh Akkineni

August 28th, 2016 Comments off

Here are the list of questions and answers asked by my friend Prasanna Yanumula. A big thanks to her for making such a list of questions to ask. Some of them made me think and helped me define who I am.
⁠⁠Question 1): ⁠⁠⁠What are you most passionate about?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Solving problems. Finding interesting and non obvious solutions give more pleasure

⁠⁠Question 2): ⁠⁠⁠What are you most excited about right now?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠finding a girl friend 🙂

⁠⁠Question 3): ⁠⁠⁠What habit or improvement are you working on?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not doing anything now. Have to do, thought of working on ‘processes’. have to think about it again.

⁠⁠Question 4): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the most interesting thing you’ve learned recently?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠The project we worked on recently which we thought as loss to us, actually created multi crore worth of company for them. So it is all about the way of doing things. And seems like I suck at selling more than I used to think.

⁠⁠Question 5): ⁠⁠⁠What personal habit are you proudest of?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Being rational, and taking decisions that increase my happiness even when things around are working against it.

⁠⁠Question 6): ⁠⁠⁠What is the favourite thing to spend money on?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Time

⁠⁠Question 7): ⁠⁠⁠What problem do you wish you could solve?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Ability to connect with more people. it is looking difficult now. So only wishing.

⁠⁠Question 8): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the nicest thing anyone’s ever said about you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I think this is same for every one. “I love you”.

⁠⁠Question 9): ⁠⁠⁠What is the one thing you will never do again?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Starting a business where I need to sell.

⁠⁠Question 10): ⁠⁠⁠What is your worst habit?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Shouting at others.

⁠⁠Question 11): ⁠⁠⁠What is the last book that you really loved?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Illusions. Did not read many, but this I read recently, and I liked it.

⁠⁠Question 12): ⁠⁠⁠How do you spend your days?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Thinking about  how to make use of all the people under me.

⁠⁠Question 13): ⁠⁠⁠Who knows you the best?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Wife

⁠⁠Question 14): ⁠⁠⁠With whom you would like to share a meal with?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Anyone from whom I can learn something or some girl.

⁠⁠Question 15): ⁠⁠⁠What’s on your mind lately?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠My family

⁠⁠Question 16): ⁠⁠⁠Would you prefer to be smart or happy and why?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Happy. because it is something we can work on. being smart is builtin skill, we can not do anything about it. So no point in wishing about it.

⁠⁠Question 17): ⁠⁠⁠What are your three weaknesses??

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠1. Unable to talk to girls 2. Unable to sell 3. Less Maths skills

⁠⁠Question 18): ⁠⁠⁠Unlimited love or money?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠love

⁠⁠Question 19): ⁠⁠⁠What is been your favourite age so far?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Now

⁠⁠Question 20): ⁠⁠⁠How would you describe yourself in three words?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠rational happy healthy

⁠⁠Question 21): ⁠⁠⁠How do you handle people you don’t like?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠avoid, ignore

⁠⁠Question 22): ⁠⁠⁠Do you think you are attractive?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠no

⁠⁠Question 23): ⁠⁠⁠What is your biggest turn on?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠from distance beauty, then passion to self improvement

⁠⁠Question 24): ⁠⁠⁠What is your best talent?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠thinking big but still connected to ground

⁠⁠Question 25): ⁠⁠⁠Describe your life using one word

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠happy

⁠⁠Question 26): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most extreme thing you have ever done?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Going to vijayawada(25km from home) to search for a girl who actually turrned out to be my sis’s friend trying to fool me as a mbbs student. Thats long back.

⁠⁠Question 27): ⁠⁠⁠What would you do with one million dollars?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Invest in some people

⁠⁠Question 28): ⁠⁠⁠How do you define success?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Achieving constant progress in what ever we want to do in life. A sense of improvement

⁠⁠Question 29): ⁠⁠⁠What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Running vimukti for this long.

⁠⁠Question 30): ⁠⁠⁠1. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Remove the desire/need for girls.
⁠⁠Question 31): ⁠⁠⁠Would you like to be famous? If, in what way?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No. But if by chance if I become famus, then I would like to be famus for doing things which I am pationate about.
⁠⁠Question 32): ⁠⁠⁠For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Having this much rich life, compared to many other people around.
⁠⁠Question 33): ⁠⁠⁠What do you like about yourself? Hate about yourself?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠like and hate are relative. So it has to be compared with others. Mostly nothing.
⁠⁠Question 34): ⁠⁠⁠How do you want people to remember you?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠After my life I don’t care how people remember me. Even I don’t care now, if I never get to know how they remember me. But if I do get to know, then ‘rational & smart guy’.
⁠⁠Question 35): ⁠⁠⁠If you could be a genius in any field, which would you choose?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not interested to be genius in any one field.Just want to be genius. If it counts as a field then ‘Ability to get work done’.
⁠⁠Question 36: ⁠⁠⁠What is the compliment that you would most like to hear?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠’would like to talk to you'(for general people). and ‘he can do it’ for people above my level.
⁠⁠Question 37): ⁠⁠⁠In what ways are you a leader? In what ways are you a follower?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠It is just a perception. For people below me I may look like leader, and for me, I know that I am always a follower.
⁠⁠Question 38): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most difficult for you to do?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Make sales. (Self or Product) and higher level of abstract thinking.
⁠⁠Question 39): ⁠⁠⁠Do you prefer to work alone or with others?why?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Others. Always. I get ideas when other people present the problem to me.
⁠⁠Question 40): ⁠⁠⁠Are you interested in managing or leading others? why or why not?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not now. But infuture yes. As of now I don’t have enough skill to do. But once I get, that is the only way to do big things in life.
⁠⁠Question 41): ⁠⁠⁠DO you consider yourself to be creative?If so, give example.
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠very little. My creativity is limited to finding solutions using some pre existing but non obvious things. Like when our company wanted to build messanger software, I said why not change existing open source code.
⁠⁠Question 42): ⁠⁠⁠What one thing would you be the most disappointed if you never got to experience it?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Finishing what ever project I am doing now. After that it will shift to next project. 🙂
⁠⁠Question 43): ⁠⁠⁠What are you most insecure about?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Afraid that total life I may have to live alone. Other than this, nothing.
⁠⁠Question 44): ⁠⁠⁠Describe a difficult situation or task that you had to deal with, and how you did so.
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Never did anything difficult. 🙂
⁠⁠Question 45): ⁠⁠⁠What is the scariest experience you have ever had?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I do not remember.
⁠⁠Question 46): ⁠⁠⁠What activity helps you feel peace of mind?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠eating 🙂
⁠⁠Question 47): ⁠⁠⁠What is one question you absolutely refuse to answer?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠none
⁠⁠Question 48): ⁠⁠⁠If could master one skill you don’t have right now, what would it be?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Ability to impress girls with least amount of effort. 🙂
⁠⁠Question 49): ⁠⁠⁠Would you rather be a jack of many trades or a master of one?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Jack of many trades.
⁠⁠Question 50): ⁠⁠⁠What’s your greatest achievement and how has it shaped you?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not so great achivements yet. (best one is running Vimukti). It helped me to tollerate the failure.
⁠⁠Question 51): ⁠⁠⁠What is your biggest turn off?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Showoff and bullshit.
⁠⁠Question 52): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Recently asked one girl from office for lunch. That means, nothing that counts bigger than that.
⁠⁠Question 53): ⁠⁠⁠looks like you are fear of girls 🙂
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Getting rejected by them, hurts. And afraid of they may think bad about me.
⁠⁠Question 54): ⁠⁠⁠What possession means the most to you?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠You mean what I would like to possess?
⁠⁠Question 55): ⁠⁠⁠yes
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠People, Actually their time with me.
⁠⁠Question 56): ⁠⁠⁠Who is the person you’ve learnt the most from?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Lot of contributions from many.  Naming one single person wont be good answer.

⁠⁠Question 57): ⁠⁠⁠What’s your superpower?🙂

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠realization that health is much more imp than money. And happiness is in the process, not the destination.

⁠⁠Question 58): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the one sound that drives you crazy?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nothing I can remember.

⁠⁠Question 59): ⁠⁠⁠what is your goal and how are you working on that?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Only goal is to be happy while doing interesting stuff. By reading books, and writing code 🙂

⁠⁠Question 60): ⁠⁠⁠What is your strangest habit?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Eating lot of peanuts, mixing all curries into one. But they are strange to others, not to me.

⁠⁠Question 61): ⁠⁠⁠If you had three wishes, what would it be?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠1. Good people to spend time with. 2. Ability to abstract in higher level. (3rd one I don’t need).

⁠⁠Question 62): ⁠⁠⁠Tell me something about you that most people don’t know.

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Everything is public. Only some private stuff that should not go out for now are remaining.

⁠⁠Question 63): ⁠⁠⁠why do you choose your profession?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Interested in building stuff, and software is easy to build than hardware.

⁠⁠Question 64): ⁠⁠⁠What are the qualities you are expecting do be ur gf? And what she can expect from you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No bulshit, driven, open ness to learn and improve. Decent looking. She can expect companionship.

⁠⁠Question 65): ⁠⁠⁠What describes your personality….naughty or nice?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nice

⁠⁠Question 66): ⁠⁠⁠If you could wakeup tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Impossible things also, or just possible stuff?

⁠⁠Question: ⁠⁠⁠Anything

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Ability to know what other person thinks

⁠⁠Question 67): ⁠⁠⁠What motivates you to succeed?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Pursuit of happiness by doing things. Success is just a by product some times.

⁠⁠Question 68): ⁠⁠⁠What is happiness according to you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Solving problems, doing new things

⁠⁠Question 69): ⁠⁠⁠Four things you are scared of?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Bad health, being alone in future. Nothing else.

⁠⁠Question 70): ⁠⁠⁠What would you like to change about yourself right now?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Shouting at others

⁠⁠Question 71): ⁠⁠⁠What is one piece of advice you give to others?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Stay healthy

⁠⁠Question 72): ⁠⁠⁠How would others describe you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠You have to ask others. Never asked others my self

⁠⁠Question 73): ⁠⁠⁠If you could change one law, what would it be?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Remove min 6 months notice for divorce. Then there will be more girls in the market to look for. 🙂

⁠⁠Question 74): ⁠⁠⁠What’s your greatest failure, and how did you overcome it?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No failures like that, had asthma for 18 years.

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Coming to hyd some how cured it. That was my biggest problem in life then

⁠⁠Question 75): ⁠⁠⁠Whar are you highly addicted to?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Presently peanuts.

⁠⁠Question 76): ⁠⁠⁠If you could go back in time to one point in your life, where would you go?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Can I come back?

⁠⁠Question : ⁠⁠⁠Just in thoughts, what is the first thing you think about?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nothing. I prefer not to go to any other time. I am perfectly fine with current time

⁠⁠Question 77): ⁠⁠⁠If Money were no object, what would you do with your life?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Exactly what ever I am doing now. Right now also I have money, don’t know what to do with

⁠⁠Question 78): ⁠⁠⁠If you could eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Mixed Veg curry 🙂

⁠⁠Question 79): ⁠⁠⁠What you choose to be: practical or formal, why?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Practical

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Formal I assume means to satisfy others. Not interested in that

⁠⁠Question 80): ⁠⁠⁠What are you looking forward to right now?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠A good relationship

⁠⁠Question 81): ⁠⁠⁠What are you working on right now?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Some software projects and above one

⁠⁠Question 82): ⁠⁠⁠want people to respect or love you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Like

⁠⁠Question 83): ⁠⁠⁠What will be the most surprising moment if happened?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Some one says I love you

⁠⁠Question 84): ⁠⁠⁠Last question for today, any favourite actress?😊

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠nope. they kept changing with age, and now not enough exposure to have favourite.


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Episode 13: Keychain

July 23rd, 2016 Comments off

Next day evening Naveen went to the Sowmya’s office.

Rahul is busy in some work on his laptop. He could not find Sowmya in the office. He knocked the door and went into Rahul’s room.

Naveen asked if there is any work for him. After discussions it was decided that Naveen should help in creating a portal to capture all the data collected from all the testing devices, and they are securely stored in the server for future retrieval and analysis.

Encryption and Data analytics is little new to Naveen but building cloud applications for large data is some thing he has done many times. So he decided that he will collect all the requirements first and will create the architecture. Based on the architecture they will decide if they have to outsource it or build it them self.

He collected some required data from Rahul. But more details about the readings and the amount of the data Sowmya has to tell.

Naveen: Where is she?
Rahul: She went out. Some of her friends came from collage.
Naveen: Oh ok, so how is the production plan going.
Rahul: Most of the components and circuit boards all being manufactured in China. We are gong through testing of some test boards we god yesterday. May be in a month or so we may finalize first version.
Naveen: So the assembly will be done here.
Rahul: Yes, that is the plan. We plan to outsource that part of work also to a local company. I am going through some companies. We need to finalize the agreement before we start the production. For casing we are using a 3D printer for now.
Naveen: Oh, great. Never used 3D printer before. I read a lot about all the changes in and various new 3D printers. Wanted to do something with them, but never know anything what to do.
Rahul: Oh, it is in Sowmya’s room. Check it out if you want to.
Naveen: Sure.
Naveen went into Sowmya’s room. He found the 3D printer on the corner.

He checked the 3D printer, and found the website of that company. He downloaded the software and the tutorial manual. It is almost 7:30PM, he wanted to see Sowmya before going. So decided to print something while waiting for her.

He wanted to print a key chain with the company name. He quickly made the 3D model using the software. And pressed print.

While it was printing, he want to the rest room. When he came back, Sowmya was checking his laptop which is connected to the printer. Some how

Sowmya: Oh, it is you. I was just checked who is printing in my room.
Naveen: Sorry, Just trying out my first 3D printing.
Sowmya: No sorry needed. It is your company too now. You have all the rights to do what ever you want. What are you printing?
Naveen: Check it out, a key chain for my bike key. How is it?
[Printing is almost finished.]
Sowmya: Wow, that is nice. Have you done it before?
[She liked the fact that he wanted to print the company name instead of his name etc.]
Naveen: No, this is first time.
Sowmya: Hey, Key chain you will take it to your office. Don’t you think it will be a problem if some one sees?
Naveen: No one will care what key chain some one is using. You know big offices right, it is no one’s responsibility to see such small stuff.
Sowmya: Ya, right.

Naveen informed about the portal discussion and that he is waiting for her to discuss the data structure and related details. Sowmya explained the product and what kind of data it generates and at what frequency. They also discussed on how this data will be pushed to the cloud. They wanted to connect the device to a mobile phone and an App in the phone should extract the data from upload to the server.

Naveen did not want to talk about the mails or messages that are exchanged yesterday unless she brings up the topic. She also thought the same. But both of them wanted the other person to talk about it first.

It was almost 8PM so Naveen decided to leave. Already every one left the office by that time, only Rahul, Sowmya and Neveen were there. So they all decided to close for the day.

Rahul noticed Sowmya while she is looking at Naveen. [Naveen started the bike and zoomed off. She could see the key chain that he printed.]

Sowmya was lost in her thoughts, but still looking at the direction that Naveen went. It is almost impossible to talk in office. And she always get more questions than answers when she talks to Naveen in messages/mails. And just 2 days back she went out on date with Rahul. How and when to talk to Naveen?

Rahul: What happened? anything wrong?
Sowmya: oh, no nothing. Lets go.

He wished that she is right. But he knew, something is there.

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Learning from mistakes

June 18th, 2016 Comments off

Based on the thousands of mistakes I did, and experience of dealing with the aftermath of those things..

  • It is impossible not to make mistakes. Each mistakes costs us something.
  • The goal is to minimize the mistakes. The more we avoid, the faster we get success.
  • It is reliable to depend on process than intention.
  • More than intelligence and knowledge, the ability to create and follow process will help us reach our goal.
  • It is easy to follow a process than create one. Mainly if you are not a boss.
  • Rarely people question wrong process. A wrong process will waste resources(time and money).
  • Each new mistake is an opportunity to optimize the process.
  • Process serves as a shared knowledge where as experience is a un shared knowledge.
  • Many people avoid mistakes by not doing anything. But that is not an option for me/some.

May be we need a software to assist us in this. Any suggestions on this please send.


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New journey begins

May 12th, 2016 Comments off

It has been almost 15 years since we started Vimukti. Now it is time to move on. We have failed many many times in these 15 years, of course did some things that worked. Anyway it was all good experience.

I am going to join PurpleTalk as VP – Technology very soon. It is a big company with 400 employees. I hope it will be a great new journey with lot of things to learn and interesting stuff to do.

I mainly want to thank Mr. Bradley & Mr. Ashok. Bradley is the one who actually believed in me in 2010. Of course we made him loose his money 🙂 Sorry Bradley.

Mr. Ashok invested in our company and believed that I could build a great business out of our technical skills. Again sorry for loosing your money too.

I now came to realize that there is much more needed other than technology to make a sale, and I don’t posses the skill for that. So from now I would like to do only stuff that I am good at.

All further development of the products and maintenance will be outsourced and no development will be done in Vimukti from now.

Big thanks to all the employees who worked in Vimukti in all these years. I know I am not an easy guy to work with, so thanks for being part of my journey. May be some day our paths will meet again with some of you.

Now new journey begins…..

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I am giving up: Closing Art of Programming

May 8th, 2016 Comments off

In March I have started Art of Programming training center. Now I have closed it. Sorry guys for giving up so early. I want to share some of my views on why I started and why I closed, and what I learned.

Why I started?

I have a guy in my office who finished Engineering in CSE and does not even know what a bit and byte was. It was shocking to me to know that people at such state can exist. And it happened that I found many many people in that state. A month before I started the Art of Programming, I have tried an different approach for training him in the office. It was actually simple one, just make him ask questions from every thing he does not know, try to force him to think that programming is all about logic, and what we normally do in real world we just have to do in code.

His state actually made me think that there can not be any one lower than that guy. I mean how can there be any one who can finish CSE  Engineering and still don’t know anything? So I thought if I can make him do programming, may be I can make any one do programming. In less than a month I was able to make him write programs and now even trying to make him take the responsibility of a complete product.

His progress made me believe that I possess a magic formula to train anyone to be a programmer. That started the idea of Art of Programming.

Why I closed?

I took too big office. I was too ambitious. Thought I will get 100’s of students as we ourself tried to hire and more than 400 people have written our tests. As many of them are in same state as the guy I mentioned above, I thought all of them will join. We thought we will not have enough capacity to serve the need. I know it sounds silly and stupid. But it was too late before I have realized the mistake.

Hardly 10 people joined. In that total paid students are 5 people. I was traveling 18km every day up and down and spending more than 400rs per day in just the travel. I was starting at 7:30 AM and after finishing at the training I was spending up to 8PM in office.

It was late to realize that it is not my magic formula that made that guy improve in the programming. It was not my skill. I have struggled every day with some students and almost made every one cry at least once.

Even those people who paid me are not rich or even middle class. Every one of them struggled to pay me that fee. They are really in need of the job, and somehow managed to find that fee to pay me. They really hoped that I could alter their life path.

Only after starting it, I realized how much burden it is to take that kind of responsibility. Every day and every hour it is like sitting on a needle. You can not punish the students for not thinking, shouting does not work, it is too much to expect them to do in some cases.

I have realized that I may not be able to help those students anymore, and does not want to create any false hopes in them. Also it may never be a business success if I run it in the way I was running. I have lost more than 5lakhs due to this program, and don’t want to loose anymore. So I have closed it.

What did I learn?

  • 20 years of bad education can not be fixed with in 3 months.
  • Do things in incremental way, at least when doing with own money.
  • Usual lesson: What ever can do wrong, will go wrong.
  • Students are lacking clarity of thought. That one guy was able to learn because he accepted that he don’t know anything and he was able to ask questions on what he does not know. Problem with most other students is that they don’t know what they know and don’t know. They are always in doubt.
  • I jumped in to the idea because it is what I always wanted to do. Made difference to people’s lives. I only thought about what a great thing it is to do. But did not realize how much it will pain when you can not help some one who is having great expectations on you.
  • It is very very very difficult to change the thought process of a person. (Only by luck it may happen, at least for me)
  • Not every one is capable of becoming a programmer. (Used to believe this before, but my false magic formula made me think otherwise)

Also it was so liberating for my mind to give up. I really enjoyed the mental peace after I made the decision.  I was tired of thinking of those students whom I was not able to help. It is not my responsibility now. Let their future be decided by their own actions or some kind of luck. I have really failed in this idea. So next time when I say I am going to change people, please remind me.

So what next?

It is just one of many ideas I got and tried to implement. I will still get many more ideas and plans. Only that this experiment taught me some good lessons. I hope I don’t forget them in future.

So may be it is okey to give up some times.

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Episode 12: What is love?

February 27th, 2016 Comments off

“What is love?” message sent by Sowmya. Naveen saw it in the morning.

He thought “Why she is asking me about it? Did I expressed that I love her and forgot?  ”

Nope, he remembers that he only told that he is interested in her. Did not use the love word. So most probably she is asking for some different reason. Anyway it is better to think through and reply. So he decided to reply later that day.

Even though he have that definition from long back, he wanted to make sure that he still sticks with the same definition. It is the definition he came up with when he used to have his previous girl friend.

Other side Sowmya saw in Whatsapp that Naveen have seen the message. So she was preparing what to tell if he asks why she is asking that question. She checked the phone around 10 times during the day to see if he sent any reply.

That day before leaving from office Naveen sent the reply.

Naveen: 🙂 in my view love is an expression we use where ‘like’ is not enough. In cases where there is too much like. For example I love Biryani.

Sowmya: I too love Biryani, but I am talking about love between people.

Naveen: According to my view, both are same.

Sowmya did not understand how to respond to it. This is not the answer she was expecting.

Naveen’s definition seems to explain all the uses of word love she can think of. But still some thing is missing. She wants it to mean much more.

She assumed that Naveen will ask “why?, what? etc” questions. But as he did not it made her feel comfortable. She does not have to worry about explaining all details and worry about what to hide and what not.

Sowmya: What about love they show in movies, where hero does anything for heroine?

Naveen: 🙂 They are movies. In reality there will be always boundaries to every thing. I can tell you more, but I doubt if you would like it.

Sowmya: Please do tell, I want to know your complete view.

Naveen: I am leaving from office now. Will reply to it in detail after going home.

Sowmya: Nothing urgent, take your time.

Later that day Naveen sent a mail to her.

Hi Sowmya,

The definition of love for me is as I explained. Love = “more more like”

Now coming to examples shown in movies etc, I think they are just mistaken some other feeling with love. I would try to explain with couple of cases.

Case 1) Love at first sight

Hero sees Heroine and falls in love with her. It may be in both direction or in one way. Anyway that love is desire. I am not saying that desire is wrong.It is a desire to be with other person. Wanting that other person to be in your life. Ofcourse here love means too many desires bundled together, but they are still desires.

I would argue this is same as what anyone would feel after seeing a Heroine or Hero. Only difference is the accessibility. If some one thinks he or she can have real Hero or Heroine as their boy friend and girl friends, then they will call it love. But just because accessibility is changed, feeling does not change. It is still same. but the intensity will be low, and we will automatically look for options where there is more probability of success.

That means if you know for sure that some one will never love(desire) you back, then we would not feel the same.

Case 2) Doing anything for the love

In my theory anything we do in this world, we do for our self. It may be donating money to charity, or doing something for our girl friend/boy friend, or even sacrificing something for some one.

Every thing we do because that gives us happiness. Some times that happiness is external, and some times that is internal. We donate money because we think they will remember us, or we think we are helping them. So in both ways it makes us happy. So we do it. Sacrificing is also same, we do it because our inner happiness is more important than external one.

So based on this theory, everything done in the name of love is also sailfish act. I am not saying selfish acts are bad. They are good. Every act is selfish actually. Only thing is some are more than other, and it differs from the point of view.

Take for example Hero saved his hard earned money to take heroine to her dream place(some beach, or different country etc). They project him as a very romantic and caring person. But if you ask me, most probably that guy or girl is ignorant or stupid. Why? Because if say you can save say 10k for one  month and buy 1hr or one day of dream tour to your loved ones, how many other lives in this wold we could have changed with that money? What if our guy or girl already knows all those possibilities and decided to spent on this dream tour? Would you still consider him/her as romantic and caring person? Obviously not.

I am not saying it is bad to spend on what makes you happy. It is a luxury that only ignorant people can have. Those who know what else they can do with the money or resources, for them it is the matter of priorities.

Case 3) Loving only one person for whole life

Once you go through both cases above, it already makes this one silly. May be the definition here contains set of desires that can only be fulfilled by one person, or the desire to stick with one person is also part of those desires. In anyway it is matter of what kind of definition one would give to the love. What ever the definition is, we can simply argue that they are set of desires/wants here.

People used to say, there is only one right person. If we know little maths, we can easily prove it is wrong. It is just some probability of finding the person you want. We have obviously not tested every other person in this world for the role of girl friend or boy friend. As so many people are finding their true love(in their words) based on probability there will be 10000’s more potential matches waiting for you. Also based on our set of filters that probability increases and decreases. But still there will be many more. So just one person for you is silly. We say it just to make it look romantic. We all know that it is false.

You put any two opposite sex people in a room for couple of days, I believe that they falling in love is more than 30% with in 3 days. (provided they have not had that experience with anyone before).

Based on this, we can conclude that “loving only one” is just the another wish we want to fulfill for our own interest.

This mail became much longer than I thought. But I hope it gave you some useful ways to think about Love.



Again Sowmya did not expect such a mail. It is more open. Even though the ideas expressed are much different than what she had imagined till now, she liked his open expression. In a way Naveen removed all the romantic feelings from the word love, and reduced it to the bare minimum.

She thought she needs time to sink in all these views.

Sowmya:Thanks for the mail

Naveen: Welcome

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Episode 11: First Date

February 21st, 2016 Comments off

Sowmya informed the team about the discussion with Naveen. She expressed her trust in Naveen. They have agreed to accept the investment. They have managed to convince the VC firm for the changes in investment amount and the offered %.

In 4 days all the investment process is finished and Naveen have transferred the money to the company account.

Even though they would get the required funding from the VC, it is the trust that Naveen had which convinced the team to give preference to him. Naveen also said that he would like to continue to contribute to the company in what ever way he can. So instead of a sleeping partner, he would contribute his IT skills in what ever way required. Officially Naveen can not work in this company due to employee agreement in his current company. So he told that he will come for one to two hours every day after office.

Company decided to hire another 5 including CAD Designer, Electronics engineer, Chemical engineer, Biologist and one office administrator.

While all this is going on Naveen wanted to know why Sowmya did not say anything when he told about his interest in her. Also Sowmya wanted to talk to Rahul and ask more about what he means by Love. She also wanted to know from Naveen what actually he is expecting from her. Rahul is waiting for Sowmya’s reply.

During office hours they do not have time for any of these. In non office hours they did communicate in chats but they are afraid to bring this topic during this busy time.

After 5 days finally Rahul decided to ask. He sent her message after dinner one night.

Rahul: Hey, have you thought anything me?

Sowmya: Doing that only now. 🙂

Rahul: Oh great. Decided anything?

Sowmya: I don’t know what to decide also. I think I have some questions.

Rahul: Ok, ask.

Sowmya: Not now. And not in chat. Lets talk over lunch tomorrow.

Rahul: Not in lunch, Dinner?

Sowmya: So a date?

Rahul: Yes, a date.

Sowmya: Ok fine. Good Night

Rahul: Thanks and Good Night

Next day Rahul picked up Sowmya for dinner even though she said she could come herself. They went to a beautiful restaurant which is little far from their place.

Sowmya: So, we are on a date.

Rahul: Yes, we are.

Sowmya: You have been on dates before?

Rahul: No, This is my first formal one. You?

Sowmya: No, none.

Rahul: Normally, people talk about their likes, dislikes, habits, family and all other things. I think we fairly know about each other.

Sowmya: Yup, but I think there will still be some things we may not know.

Rahul: Sure.

Sowmya: Why not we start with what we think we know and see if that still is correct?

Rahul: Good idea, ladies first.

Sowmya: Okey. Your father is a bank manager. Mother is a house wife. Your home is in Delhi. You studied your +2 in Delhi. You have one elder bother, and he is working in Bangalore.

Rahul: Ya, right, go on.

Sowmya: You are staying along with your friends here. Before our project you were working as a programmer.

Rahul: right

Sowmya: You are friendly with every one. You like traveling. You used to have couple of girl friends before if my sources are right.

Rahul: Not really girlfriends, but kind of.

Sowmya: You are a very caring and joyful person.

Rahul: 🙂

Sowyma: Thats it, now your turn.

Rahul: Ok, You are from Lucknow, your father is a business man. You are the only daughter in the family. You are staying here with your mother.

Sowmya: Right

Rahul: You are very intelligent, and very hard working person.

Sowmya: Thanks

Rahul: You are a bit reserved type.

Sowmya: What does that mean?

Rahul: It means little closed than average women that I have seen.

Sowmya: ok, go on

Rahul: You try to be like normal girls, but you are not normal. Your thoughts and actions always says you want to do something else.

Sowmya: Wow, no one ever said that before

Rahul: Am I right?

Sowmya: May be

Rahul: And you are very beautiful.

Sowyma: hmm, thank you. Anything else?

Rahul: lot of stuff, I know you like chicken Biryani, specially Hyderabadi Biryani. Your favorite color is Black. Your favorite number is 3. You go to temple every Sunday.

[Sowmya was wearing a black dress. Now she knows that Rahul knows why she wore that dress today]

Sowmya: Who told you all that?

Rahul: No one, I am seeing you for more than an year, so I know.

Sowmya: You have good observation skills.

Rahul: Thanks.

Sowmya: Now, you said you love me.

Rahul: Right

[Now he is relieved that she still did not forget about it. The conversation upto now was in a way that there is no such proposal, and he thought she would ignore it].

Sowmya: What do you mean by “Love”?

Rahul: I don’t know, the attraction between a man and woman?

Sowmya: So it is attraction?

Rahul: No, no. Not just attraction, It is much more than that. Like wanting to see the other person happy.

Sowmya: So you want to see me happy.

Rahul: Ofcourse, who does not.

Sowmya: So every one loves me than.

Rahul: hmm, I think you are enjoying this game.

Sowmya: 🙂 Yes I am. Also I need to know clearly what you mean.

Rahul: Don’t you know what is Love before?

Sowyma: I know, but I need to know what you mean by it.

Rahul: If I had known you would ask me in this way, may be I would have prepared myself. When I said I love you, I mean I want you in my life. I want you to be my life partner.

Sowmya: ok

Rahul: Did you ask same question to every one who proposed to you?

Sowmya: No, at that time I never cared about it. I was putting my mind in studies, and after college on job.

Rahul: So what is my number?

Sowmya: May be 15, but not sure.

Rahul: wow, that many people. I thought you might have got a lot, but did not think that number will be that much big.

Sowmya: I know many girls who got much more.

Rahul: I know, considering your intelligence I thought not many people would dare to propose you.

Sowmya: So that that mean I am more intelligent than you?

Rahul: Sure you are.

Sowmya: Thank you, but I don’t think so. And I never thought people will think about intelligence before even proposing.

Rahul: They may not, but they will be afraid of it.

Sowmya: So you are not?

Rahul: With you, no I am not. I like you more because of it.

Sowmya: Okey

Rahul: So what is your opinion on me?

Sowmya: You are a great person Rahul. I like you. Like every one, I like to be around you. Because you make every one around happy.

Rahul: Thats it? like every one?

Sowmya: 🙂

Rahul: What?

Sowmya: I need some more time. I know I like you. But there is something else, I still need some more clarity.

Rahul: Okey, thank you, that is more than enough for now.

Sowmya: Thank you for understanding.

Rahul: No no, thank you

They finished the dinner, and Rahul dropped her at home. Sowmya thought “Every thing is perfect with Rahul, he takes care of every thing. From reservation to pick up and dropping back. His dress and style, the way he opens the car doors for her, the way invites her by holding the chair for her, everything. He is really good and romantic.”

Sowmya: Thank you for the dinner. I had a good time.

She moved her hand for a handshake. Rahul took her hand with his both hands. She hesitated a bit, but she knows that she would like it. His hands are warm, it gave a pleasant feeling.

Rahul: Thank you for coming,

Sowmya: Good night

Rahul: Good night

It is not first time to see each other in eyes, but some how this felt different.

She went in to the house and started changing dress for sleeping. It was already 10:30PM. She removed her phone from the purse and kept it on the table. It is blinking, seems like a message notification.

After changing dress, she saw the message. It is from Naveen, he sent around 9PM. “Hi”. That is it, nothing else.

She thought better not to reply now. So she prepared herself for sleep. Her thoughts are around the definition of Love. What is its meaning, all these years she thought she knows what it means. Saw so many movies on it. So many boys proposed to her. But now she is clue less, what does it mean?

While lying on the bed, she immediately opened the phone and replied to Naveen, “What is love?”. Last online time of Naveen is 9:30, he might be sleeping now she thought. But why to send message to him? Why not ask Srinivas or Ramesh?

If he asks why I am asking, what to tell? shit, there is no way to delete the message now, even if I delete, message is already sent. She can do nothing now except prepare for what Naveen is going to ask or say. She does not want to tell about Rahul. Not that she wants to hide anything. She prepared some alternate story to tell Naveen if he asks why she asked about love. Now she can do nothing except going into sleep.

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New Challenge: Meet a new person every day

February 1st, 2016 Comments off

From today and for next 365 days, I have decided to take a new challenge. I will be meeting with a new person every day. It will be either for lunch or dinner or even a breakfast.

That person will be in such a way that either I get benefit from them or they get benefit or most probably both get benefit by knowing each other. They can be of any gender, age and profession.

I will be requesting all my friends to suggest one person to meet. They should know both of us and should schedule for the meeting. This is my request to all my friends.

By doing this what I will be achieving the following.

  1. Knowing more people
  2. Spend time that will be productive
    Because I am asking for only one person from each friend, I believe they will give me the best of they can get. So I am sure it will not be waste of time.
  3. I will be able to develop skill to talk to strangers
  4. New perspectives and new ideas

I hope this will be a great challenge. So guys be ready with your recommendations.

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