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Let go of the ego

March 21st, 2017

One of the things I am trying to learn is how to let go of my ego. There are various things in my life which I think I can associate with ego or some definitions of it.

Here are some scenarios where I think I used find it.

  1. When I know my idea is better than what some one else if suggesting.
  2. When I know that some one who is talking has no idea of what he is talking.
  3. When some one say to me that I am no better than any average guy. In what ever context.
  4. When I send a message to some girl and expect a reply.
  5. When a relative is telling about some one who earned so and so more than me.

May  be there are some other cases, but I don’t remember now.

It seems all of this are mostly related to avoiding failure, or not appearing as failure. I think there is a cultural problem in accepting and embracing failure in life. We believe too much in success, and we praise successful people too much, even if we know that most if it was just luck.

I think I have already addressed the last one(5th) in my character. Once you read enough, and seen enough, you will realize that what ever we got is already much more than what we need. Almost all the people I know are earning more than what they need. There are very less number of people who worked with me or I came across who are earning less than they need. But it is not too far to think they will cross that line soon. Some people cross the line faster than others. As my needs are less, mine is easy. Some people just keep pushing the line further, their wish. But in a way every one got what they need. Now after that how much you earn is of no value. Some one earns 30, some one gets 3, we do still see these as differences in their talent. But it is not. It is just pure circumstances. Why do we have to care how much one earns. I think we need to care is about what one is doing with ones life.

I still need to address the 3rd point. It needs constant monitoring of my thoughts in that heated moment. If I am self aware, then I take them light. But if I am lost track of my self, most probably I send to get upset due to the ego that always says I am better than average. If we are better or not why do we care. What difference will it make? I will keep working on this aspect. I need to be self aware as much time as possible. Meditation seems to be a good way to do it. Still in very early stage.

The main reason why I thought of posting this article is about  the 4th point. When I send a message to a girl and she does not reply, what do I feel. Do I feel hurt because of my ego? I leave it to your imagination of what kind of messages they are. Always imagination is much more interesting then reality. 🙂 right?

Yesterday I sent a message, I do send them even thought I know there is less chance of a reply. In that case why do I send them? Actually the point of this post is, why do I even need to care the reason for sending? Why can’t I send it without any regrets or feelings of ego hurt? To give you a clear perspective let me give you an example, You found a perfect girl/boy. You asked them for dinner. They gave you a ugly look and rejected outright as if it was foolish to even ask. Now what ever you feel is the one I am talking now. What is it? Is it ego? Do we get disappointed, yes. But that is not the issue. Can we dare to ask immediately next day? What is stopping us? Making yourself fools in-front of some one else? So what is the problem in that? Is not willing to make fool of yourself is not ego? Do we need to let it go? What happens when every is 100% willing to be fool at any time. What kind of world will it be? We all know it is not possible.

Now take for instance Dalai Lama. Can he make himself to be a fool in front of others? If he can not, does he really spiritual leader? It only means that he is still think what he is of more value or important then what he is when he is being a fool. Not sure how many people in the world can put themselves in such situations and come out of it without any feeling of guilt or angry etc.

I used to think people who does not value themselves are kind of stupid. Well actually now it seems the other way.

I am thinking I should let go of this feeling. Be stupid when ever I want. Let others think what ever they want. As long as we are not hurting anyone, I suppose this is okey.

What are the limits you can go to being a stupid or a fool?

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