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Being Good

December 13th, 2017 Comments off

Every one thinks they are good. Even I used to think so. And people are not in telling where we are wrong. If we every did wrong to someone, most probably they get hurt, and they try to keep distance from us.

Rarely we come across people who actually like to tell us what we did wrong. I am lucky to have such friends. They told what I did wrong to them and others.

It is never late to say sorry. If you know something wrong I did, let me know and help me fix myself.  You will get a guaranteed gift card worth more than your effort in making me realize.

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Indian Politics & Corruption and possible solution

August 23rd, 2017 Comments off

I was fortunate to have spent 14hrs with economist Atanu Dey on our journey to watch Great Solar Eclipse 2017. I got some interesting stories about India. Most of those stories are what we already hear from our known contacts. I will generalize some of them as follows.

Story 1: My friend has a transport company. He tells me that in order to get profit they have to transport some 40 tons per trip but the maximum they are allowed will be 25tons. So how do they do it? They just pay around 40k per month per each vehicle and no one will ever catch them and fine them.

Story 2: I wanted to travel from Pune to Mumbai. I go to that taxi stand and many people will be calling you to offer for the taxi. Once I bargained the trip for 1400 and get into one taxi. It happens that the one I bargained is not the driver. He is some middle man. He pays 1000 to the driver and keeps 400. We get to know that it takes around 500 for the gas/petrol and the driver can get around 500 for the trip. So why he paid 400 for the other person?

We know many of those corruption stories. After we listen to them we all used to feel that, those people are corrupt. Actually I think they have to do what they are doing in order to stay in job or to pay off the bribe they had to pay for getting the job. Every penny collected from the last man is split and distributed back to the top. Normal Citizen -> Police Constable -> SI -> SP -> DIG -> Home Minister -> Chief Minister -> Party President

We may not believe that every one in the system are corrupt. But if you apply basic economics we can easily derive these. Why will some govt employees agree to stay in jobs which does not fetch any bribes while some of their colleagues are making lot of money in bribes?

They don’t. The one who got the opportunity got it after paying lot of hefty bribe himself to be in that position. And that so on. That economic principle applies to every cycle there. Even the top people have to do it because it costs that much to get elected to power.

So because we make it so hard for a person without money to get elected, they need money and they have to recover it back.

I am in US now. So how is system in US works? in US there is no such corruption at the lowest level. It may be at the lobbyist levels and it is all public. No one is taking bribes here. So that is the difference?

The single biggest difference I find is that you don’t need permission to do most of the things here. For example if you want to build a house, there will be some regulations. But there is no permission required. You just follow those regulations and build what ever you want. Some one will come and will check it and give his approval. And even if he/she does not approve, they can not do anything. They can just report it back, and you can fight it in the court. They have to show that you did things against the regulations. Till then nothing happens. You keep doing your business.

I think removing all permission system in India and replace them with regulations is the best solution to reduce corruption. To keep the system running, they have to enhance the courts and need to speedup the justice system. So they will do it. And I think that is the solution.

I want a website where there will be all kinds of these problems(corruption stories) listed, and we explore the possible solutions to each of them. If any one is interested in such a site or if such a site already exists let me know.

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Principles, rules and ethics

August 12th, 2017 Comments off

We all want to have good principles or ethics in our life. Some of us have not even thought anything specific on what these principles are and what those ethics we want to follow. It is okey, just because we have not defined them in some notebook does not mean we don’t have them.

One thing that I always believed and I am sure that most will agree that there is no absolute in this world. (Excluding maths and science I mean). You can not say something is absolutely good and something is absolutely bad. Most of the important stuff in this world does not have a proper scale to measure with. For example love, friendship, good, happiness, right or wrong.

But we do measure every day. Even in those things without the scale. Because even though we dont have a scale, most of the times we know where we are on the scale, and where something else is. Is it on the black side or the white side. Here Black and White are just example colors on the gray scale. May be White is divine love and Black is satan or something like that. I am just telling good and bad as an example here. But this same gray scale applies to so many things in our life.

One of the common mistake that I observed people doing is that they forget that it is gray scale without any markings. Some times we do draw line on this scale, but that is only to tell your limits. Those lines are not the units of measurements. Another common mistakes people do is that they think this gray scale does not even exist and some how their brain comes up with YES or NO answers to situations in which we would normally require to check where on this gray scale things fall and which is on left or right of our point of interest and why.

One recent example for this is, a discussion with a friend in Mexico. He is Eric. He has 2 dogs, and the discussion was where he should keep them when he goes to Europe for his trip. I asked simple question like how much would you be willing to pay for some one to take care of the dogs. To my surprise he said he wont pay anything. If you know me well enough you can guess what I might be thinking immediately. It actually means that those dogs are worthless to him. Well that is not the case actually. He loves those dogs. The reason he said he wont pay anything is because he has some friends who can give him favor to taking care of them. I have tried so much time in arguing and trying to make him say a number. He treats these favors from friends are un measurable and never says a number.

But we all know that reality does not work like that. Even though they are not measurable directly, there is always some thing to refer and there is always some number we can assign to it. That value may keep changing from time to time, but there will be a number. Because that if we have a friend who always asks for favors and never does anything to you, how long will he or she remain to be your friend? Not long, because our brain keeps measuring things. And we make the decision some day. But most rational way I see in those situations is, don’t wait for your brain to go into some kind of unknown chemical reaction and tell YES or NO. Make the measurement as and when you can, and realize the limits in which you want to be, and make the decision when limits are crossed. Don’t get angry or happy for these things. We can remove emotions out of our decisions if we can put numbers to stuff.

[I know that I started with a un measurable items and how telling about to put a number to things, well, sorry it is complicated].

One more important stuff I want to say is about Principles. I used to think I am a principled man. I think mine are good compared to say 99% of people. (all from my own perspective anyway). And I always wanted to act based on those principles no matter what the situation is. I think from 2001 to 2014 I am in this state I think. But things started to change much more in last 3 years. I used to hold firm beliefs. I will do some things, I wont do some things, some things are good and some things are bad etc.

But now I am more flexible. I realize that every thing is based on perception and I don’t make quick judgement on people or situations. If some one asks like ‘is X good to do?’ Previously it used to be YES, or NO. Now it is ‘Compared to what?’. I do still make the judgement, but only in comparison with other things.

I was discussing about one such principle with a friend recently. It goes something like this. “If friends A, B independently tells X some things, then X will never reveal those details to the other persons even if A is telling about B and B is telling about A”. I think it is very common principle that most of us follow. Right?

Actually it is not a principle, it is what we do without even thinking. We always talk about bad things about someone who is not present there. Change people, topics change to bad things about people who are not there. You can all imagine how bad these things are. We are all afraid of telling hard truths or our views to others, if we think it will hurt them. But does that mean we don’t hold that views? No. We do hold it, we just don’t tell it directly. And we need a way to let them out, so we all let them out when they are not in the room.

You might say that this above example is different than the principle I just mentioned. But I dont agree. What if the information that is shared is about some bad things about the other person? Where do you draw the line to apply the principle?

You might say that it is “Trust”. When some one trusts you, you have to protect that trust. Actually we can generalize it like this…..

If I say that I will do X, then no matter what I will do X. Just that that X happened to be “keep the secrets“. Right?

It is a very solid principle if you see. I used to believe in it, and I always thought I need to follow it. Fortunately I think I am little wiser now. And I believe this is a very bad principle. (bad in relative terms… don’t forget the gray scale ever).

What is the principle that I follow now?

What ever I am going to do in future is going to be what I told or at least better than that, and what is better depends on my own judgement at the time of making that judgement.

If you see, it just looks like “I will do what ever I want”. There is no absolute dependability on a person with such a principle. You never really know what I am going to do. How to trust a man like that?

Well, you still can trust me. But that trust is based on your trust on my ability to make proper judgements in future. If you think I will make better decisions in future, then make your calls on that. If you think I might make silly and stupid decisions in future, them use that info.

In reality there is no such thing as absolute secret. We always are ready to reveal secrets of others. But only if needed. Sometimes if is more valuable to keep the secret than your life. For example lets assume that you know that North Korea is going to launch nuclear missiles and it is told to you by a your trusted friend. Xe asked you to keep that as a secret. As if it comes out his life will be in danger. But a nuclear missile will kill 10000s, and you have to make a call if 1000s are more important or your friends trust or his life is more important.

If you are reading this blog, I hope you will tell that information to proper authority and let your friend die in order to protect 1000s. [If you don’t fuck of from this site.]

Now, if you see you can not trust most rational people. They will always tell your secrets, if there is a need. And that decision is made by them based on the situations. That is what exactly is what I said my principle is. I will do what I want to do.

The friend said that she choose that principle based on her experience. When ever she moved information from one side to another, she noticed that those A,B are actually became far from each other. Sounds good right? If you see from her decision, she wants them to remain close. That should be the expectation anyway.

But once you have made such principle and you got to know some information from A that if you do not share to B it is going to blow the relation between A and B. Now will you stick with your principle or you will stick with your expectation of your outcome of choosing that principle in first place?

I am not arguing about that one principle here. I am arguing about creating principles that make you act in ways that will defeat the purpose of the principles. Don’t limit yourself and future actions by the knowledge of the past. Let yourself evolve that is the only way forward. Just protect yourself from going down the ladder of wisdom.

Actually similar situation came with my investor in Vimukti. At one time, he said “you said you will do so and so, but now you are doing some thing else”. And to that I replied “Don’t depend on what I said I will do. If what I said does not make sense to do, I wont do”. Words might be different, but meaning is same. Ofcourse he hates me for saying that, and I don’t think he will ever forget that :-), and I am okey with that. I don’t want to create a false image about me. Let them know who I really am, good or bad what ever they think I am.

There is a English movie, in which a journalist goes to jail to protect the source of information. In that case the source is a small child. I liked that movie. Now thinking about topic, I really wonder what is she trying to protect.

Even journalists have to make decisions. Just presenting facts is not enough. They have to decide what is good and what is not.

Some times there are not just A, B. There might be so many people involved. Your decisions effects lives.

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The writer I liked, whose stories I did not read

April 21st, 2017 Comments off

I was reading a very good article on James Altucher blog. He wrote about why people hate their jobs. It is a very good article that gives you his perspective on the that topic. I believe it syncs with many people I have seen. It did sync with my view.

I was reading the comments on that post, and they are interesting too. People expressing how it related to them, and what they used to think.

From there I found a book title, and about an author. He is Ray Bradbury. Those of you who want to be writers I recommend reading some of this books. I did not read actually, and not sure if I will ever read. But I found two videos of him on You Tube. After watching I just felt, “wow, if at all I am a writer that is how I want to be”.

I instantly fell in love with that person. Here are those videos for you.



I feel like it is how every one should be. Not just writers. Every person should be true to themselves. I don’t really know what it means to be ‘true to themselves’. But there is some kind of authenticity in his personality. I could not pin point it exactly. But it is there. And I am referring to that. I hope I do have it, and I will try to have.


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What kind of place I want to work at?

April 9th, 2017 Comments off

As my position at PurpleTalk as VP of Technology has ended, I got the opportunity to think what kind of place I want to work at. It is not an easy question for most of the people. We normally don’t think of it too much. When we join a new job, we see what the company is doing, if it fits our career path, then join else don’t join. That is how we normally decide.

As I have not worked in any company other than my own for major part of my professional life, I thought I am flexible and I can adjust. In fact I did. I did adjust a lot. But does adjusting means compromising your principles? I don’t think so. So I tried not to compromise on them, with say about 60% success rate.

Last month I was listening to a great podcast of Naval Ravikant and he said some thing related to honesty.

“I think honesty is a core, core, core value. To give you examples of what I mean by honesty is I want to be able to just be me. I never want to be in an environment or around people where I have to watch what I say.”

I absolutely recommend his podcast for any one who reads my blog. There will be some thing to learn for sure.

Immediately when I heard it, it went straight into my head. I thought about it and immediately decided that I need to act on it very soon. When you can not be what you are, and you are forced to act, is that worth it? I am sure you all agree that it is not.

But the question is we all do that every day. We all go to jobs, and at least some part of our job, we do act. We dont tell what we think, and we tell what other people like to hear, and we get uncomfortable(or get habituated) and come back. At the end of the day we get our salary, and we feel happy about it.

So how much of acting is worth. For most of us life is not a path of roses. We can not choose all our places of working, we all have to make compromises. If we want money, we need to settle of less than ideal working conditions. If some one else is paying, you got to do what they say. I understand it completely and agree with it.

But the major question remains, how much acting should we tolerate? Well, that depends on how lucky you are, and what your requirements are. Some how I got this question after 15 to 16 years of my professional life. I did not do acting while I am my own boss. And tried to do same even with my investors. I did make them agree too. But it is better to make them angry then cheat them with false hope/belief.

I think now I need to put an end to this acting once for all. And I think I can afford that price. Principles are free to take, but costly to maintain. Depending on where you are on your journey in life, you need to decide if that cost of the principles is good enough to keep or lose.

Thanks to one of my friend who referred me to “Ray Dalio“. Just watch couple of videos of  his. It is an extra ordinary organization which he runs. BridgeWater is a worlds largest hedge fund with 1500 employees. They operate based on “Radical Truth, and Radical Transparency”. Every meeting in the company is transparent(video recorded) and any one else in the company can see and question any decision and discuss about what is discussed. No one will talk about any person behind their back. So it is the proof that an organization can be built on truth and transparency.

Either I want to build such an organization, or I want to help other companies build it. Because I inherently believe in openness and truthfulness.

To summarize, here are couple of points that I want in my next place of work.

  1. Transparency
  2. Honesty
  3. Meritocracy
  4. More intimate relations with the people I work with
  5. Place where my skills can be put to best use, rather than waste my time in making a power point beautiful which most non-tech persons can do much better than me.
  6. Data driven decision making
  7. Where I can make difference to people’s lives. (Employees, or customers)


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Meaningful Relations

March 25th, 2017 Comments off

I was talking to a Israeli women yesterday and our conversation went like this.

IW: I’m looking for someone Israeli. I’m a language person, so having a meaningful relationship in any language other than Hebrew would be odd for me. ​

ME: I wish you a good day before your travel. I know you are a language person. Actually that is what really caught my attention. I am trying to learn new languages. May be not spending as much time as I should be. I understand the fact that most of the times we prefer the people who talk in our native language. My native language is Telugu. Even though my English skills are not as good as my Telugu skills, I have found that I can have serious discussions and even talk about internal feelings in that English. I think it is just matter of habit. ​

And regarding the words ‘meaningful relation’. There can be so many interpretations possible for it. But I would choose some thing like this ‘a relation where you would be willing to allocate some time per week to just to be with the other person and do what ever those two people like to do together. May be talk about books, movies, ideas, or learn new stuff etc’. ​
One of the most valuable thing we all have is our time. And by allocating time for some one we are actually telling that they are worth that much. And we value the company the other person. ​
Do we want to spend all our time in life with one person whom we have sex with? I don’t think so. In my view there can be so many meaningful relationships possible at same time. ​
Just sharing my views, I hope you don’t mind. ​
Now actually I wish you actually find your Israeli guy(if you can not let that requirement go), and we can still look forward to the possibility of some other entirely different meaningful relation. 😀​

IW: Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I too believe that we can have several meaningful relationship. :-)​

ME: Now that you even said sorry to some one whom you don’t know and might never talk again, and clearly could have ignored, why do you think I will let you go with your excuse on that I don’t know Hebrew. Where will I find such a good person. 🙂 just kidding…. Am I? 😀​
Thank you, your acknowledgement made my day. I can spend rest of my weekend in day dreams. 😀​

To be frank I am not looking for a person whom I think will make me happy some day in future. I know the fact that happiness depends on us not the other person. I am looking for the experience of life. I was a husband, am a brother, son and engineer, some teaching, some entrepreneurship​, some student etc. These are all different experiences of life. There are infinite possibilities of them. But with our limited time we can experience only some of them. So why to limit our self to even narrow list? For example ‘be XYZ of a beautiful Israeli women’ what ever that XYZ is, does not matter how small or big that is. As long as it adds value(experience) to our life it is worth it. ​

I might sound desperate, actually I am. But not for one particular person or relation, but for a experience filled life. I think it is worth being desperate for. What we don’t have is time. Some experiences are not possible as we grow older. Even though I am aiming for 150 years. 🙂 still not enough. ​

The point here is not about how I am trying to impress this women. It is about “Meaningful Relations”. I have seen this word used by girls when they say in dating sites ‘I am looking for a serious meaningful relation’. Actually what they are talking about is a husband. But when we actually look our lives, all the people we talk to and all the people we like to interact, we see that except one or 2 people rest of all people are not life partners. They are parents, sisters, brothers, relatives, friends, colleagues, class mates, room mates etc.

What we like in each of these people is different. Some times you have a brother you never call, but you have a friend you always talk to. Or you have a relative never seen in life, but when you need they will help you. What we get out of each person actually depends on what our relation with that person. Some times we give that relation a name, but just because you gave it a name all relations with that name are not equal. What Brother or Sister means to you is different than what it means to me. The name of the relation is just a convenience to refer it when we talk. But the relation itself is much more than it.

But what people does not seem to understand is even the relation of Wife or Husband is also same thing. We are habituated to give names to relations and then forget that they are more than names.

Some people you want for having sex with. Some people you want to talk to your dreams. Some people you need to talk to your professional life, or etc etc. We don’t have to start deciding what each person is for to you until you both talk and decide. Some people can play multiple roles in your life. Why do we have to expect everything from single person say wife or husband? We know it does not work, and it is not meaningful.

Our relations are like colors in a color spectrum. Each one is different, unique, and scattered around on that spectrum.

I hope I have given you some thing to think about. If you have some thing to say about these, please reach out. I am happy to talk on these subjects always.


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Let go of the ego

March 21st, 2017 Comments off

One of the things I am trying to learn is how to let go of my ego. There are various things in my life which I think I can associate with ego or some definitions of it.

Here are some scenarios where I think I used find it.

  1. When I know my idea is better than what some one else if suggesting.
  2. When I know that some one who is talking has no idea of what he is talking.
  3. When some one say to me that I am no better than any average guy. In what ever context.
  4. When I send a message to some girl and expect a reply.
  5. When a relative is telling about some one who earned so and so more than me.

May  be there are some other cases, but I don’t remember now.

It seems all of this are mostly related to avoiding failure, or not appearing as failure. I think there is a cultural problem in accepting and embracing failure in life. We believe too much in success, and we praise successful people too much, even if we know that most if it was just luck.

I think I have already addressed the last one(5th) in my character. Once you read enough, and seen enough, you will realize that what ever we got is already much more than what we need. Almost all the people I know are earning more than what they need. There are very less number of people who worked with me or I came across who are earning less than they need. But it is not too far to think they will cross that line soon. Some people cross the line faster than others. As my needs are less, mine is easy. Some people just keep pushing the line further, their wish. But in a way every one got what they need. Now after that how much you earn is of no value. Some one earns 30, some one gets 3, we do still see these as differences in their talent. But it is not. It is just pure circumstances. Why do we have to care how much one earns. I think we need to care is about what one is doing with ones life.

I still need to address the 3rd point. It needs constant monitoring of my thoughts in that heated moment. If I am self aware, then I take them light. But if I am lost track of my self, most probably I send to get upset due to the ego that always says I am better than average. If we are better or not why do we care. What difference will it make? I will keep working on this aspect. I need to be self aware as much time as possible. Meditation seems to be a good way to do it. Still in very early stage.

The main reason why I thought of posting this article is about  the 4th point. When I send a message to a girl and she does not reply, what do I feel. Do I feel hurt because of my ego? I leave it to your imagination of what kind of messages they are. Always imagination is much more interesting then reality. 🙂 right?

Yesterday I sent a message, I do send them even thought I know there is less chance of a reply. In that case why do I send them? Actually the point of this post is, why do I even need to care the reason for sending? Why can’t I send it without any regrets or feelings of ego hurt? To give you a clear perspective let me give you an example, You found a perfect girl/boy. You asked them for dinner. They gave you a ugly look and rejected outright as if it was foolish to even ask. Now what ever you feel is the one I am talking now. What is it? Is it ego? Do we get disappointed, yes. But that is not the issue. Can we dare to ask immediately next day? What is stopping us? Making yourself fools in-front of some one else? So what is the problem in that? Is not willing to make fool of yourself is not ego? Do we need to let it go? What happens when every is 100% willing to be fool at any time. What kind of world will it be? We all know it is not possible.

Now take for instance Dalai Lama. Can he make himself to be a fool in front of others? If he can not, does he really spiritual leader? It only means that he is still think what he is of more value or important then what he is when he is being a fool. Not sure how many people in the world can put themselves in such situations and come out of it without any feeling of guilt or angry etc.

I used to think people who does not value themselves are kind of stupid. Well actually now it seems the other way.

I am thinking I should let go of this feeling. Be stupid when ever I want. Let others think what ever they want. As long as we are not hurting anyone, I suppose this is okey.

What are the limits you can go to being a stupid or a fool?

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Why I wont stand for forced national anthem playing

February 2nd, 2017 Comments off

First of all I am not a Patriot. I have clarified this long back here. And that is the reason I said “Indian National Anthem” not “Our”.

Here are some questions for those  who can actually think. (others: sorry I give up).

Consider you born in current Pakistan. So you will also be having your own national anthem. Right? And if they decided to play it in before the start of movies, you will stand up. Right?

If Yes: So for you it just does not matter that is being played, it just matters on where you are born. What about after your 25th year you went to China, And you married a Chinese partner. Now your national anthem is some thing different. So now you will feel pride for that song and land. Now after another 10 years, you came to India and you liked the place. You became Indian citizen. Now your pride and respect will be for this new song. Right?

If Yes: Now imagine that China and Pakistan has declared war on India, and war is going on in some controlled part of North East. Not a full war, but like Kargil. But due to some issue you are struck in China, and you are in some Chinese movie theater and their national anthem is being played. Will you stand up? And feel pride for Chinese song?

If Yes: Then you are just a robot without any of your own thoughts or you are just a coward who is just afraid what others will think and do to you.

NOW I am not a robot. And I am not a coward.

If No to any of the above, then you got to explain to me why not. How it is different than feeling pride and respect for one country vs 3 countries?

For those of you who feel pride for your country, can you explain why? What actually is pride? How many of you felt pride for India making nuclear weapons?(I did at that time, I know I was stupid then).  Just imagine that you are born in some other enemy state, (if there is one). Would you feel proud too? No. So all your reactions are based on something that is uncontrolled by you. Like your color, sex, religion and place of birth. People should feel proud only when they actually thought and did something for which they are happy for. I don’t think being born in India is what I thought of doing myself. It was just an accident, and I don’t have to feel proud for accidents.

Travel to the hearts of the people

December 31st, 2016 Comments off

We all know many people who like to travel. I am not one of them. I am not afraid of travel. Only that I don’t get enough return at the end of the journey or while in the journey. Traveling 10hr to reach to a place and enjoy the plane enough to forget the pains of travel, is almost impossible for me. Those who can are lucky people, they know a way to enjoy which I can not.

But I think I know even better way. For me people are far more important then places. I never saw a photo of a place and have a instant feeling of wanting to be there. Never felt it. May be there is some disconnection in my brain related to those parts.

I think my lack of visual memory is a bit to blame here with places. I don’t remember any specific places we visualize it fully. Every thing I see becomes like a text and gets stored in the brain. I know I have seen some place, I can even recognize it. But It will loose all its visual information once I close my eyes.

But I have seen many people or known about them with whom I want to spend time. In a way it is much harder task than visiting places. With places it is kind of one side conversation. People do have feelings, they have emotions, knowledge, experience etc. What we can share with a person can never be done with a place. A place does not know what you feel about it. You like it or not, it will still be there. They do change, but you are just a spectator to its change. You have no say in its change.

With people, it is totally different. Every person changes us and we change them. Some positive some negative. It all depends on how we want to change. Even if we don’t change, experience of being with some one makes us rich. Rich with knowledge.

So here is my crazy plan.

Live with different people every 2 weeks. Eating with them sleeping with them(well, not that way), going to offices, share personal feelings, opinions, problems, solutions, ideas etc. In a way be part of the family for total duration.

I lived with other people in hostels or in relatives homes when I am kid. But after I have grown up, it never happened.
Some of us live with friends in rooms, hostels. But most of the times our friends are just like us. Mostly the perspective will be same. I would like to make it as diverse as possible.

A single mom, Young couple, A Couple with one or two young kids, A Doctor, A Lawyer, A Scientist, A Mathematician, A Programmer, A Banker, A Receptionist, Different Country(s), Different Language(s),Different economic background(s) and so on. There are different kinds in each of these, so the possibilities are endless. I prefer all these people to be either a family, or couple or single women. No more single guys (Sorry guys). Being with single guys is always possible and does not seem that much challenging (and interesting).

So if you want to join this crazy experiment and want to invite me, please contact me. Or you can always suggest some interesting people you know about it. May be your friends are interested.

During the stay I can pay for all my expenses and also contribute to collective expenses. In case if you are wondering I will not be making any moves in the direction of love, sex etc. I can adjust in all kinds of environments. Will try to keep my health as top priority, other than that you wont be facing any issues from my side. I will share every thing openly(if you are okey to receive). You can share anything with me, and all your secrets will remain secret. I will be writing about my experience during and after. You can find out what a third person thinks about any of your stuff(things, feelings, ideas etc). I will give you feedback, suggestions. (in the writing which I will publish). I will anonymize all information about you(Optional).

The reason for choosing 2 weeks is to make it long enough to know a person fully. When we meet for single day, we all act. And I want to know real you, so it takes time. And it is not long enough to get bored(I hope). And if it gets bored, we can reduce it to 1 week.

After end of each experience, I believe I will be having one more friend or a family friends to count on. Not every relation lasts, many do.

What do you think? Are you in?

Open Heart with Rajesh Akkineni

August 28th, 2016 Comments off

Here are the list of questions and answers asked by my friend Prasanna Yanumula. A big thanks to her for making such a list of questions to ask. Some of them made me think and helped me define who I am.
⁠⁠Question 1): ⁠⁠⁠What are you most passionate about?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Solving problems. Finding interesting and non obvious solutions give more pleasure

⁠⁠Question 2): ⁠⁠⁠What are you most excited about right now?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠finding a girl friend 🙂

⁠⁠Question 3): ⁠⁠⁠What habit or improvement are you working on?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not doing anything now. Have to do, thought of working on ‘processes’. have to think about it again.

⁠⁠Question 4): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the most interesting thing you’ve learned recently?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠The project we worked on recently which we thought as loss to us, actually created multi crore worth of company for them. So it is all about the way of doing things. And seems like I suck at selling more than I used to think.

⁠⁠Question 5): ⁠⁠⁠What personal habit are you proudest of?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Being rational, and taking decisions that increase my happiness even when things around are working against it.

⁠⁠Question 6): ⁠⁠⁠What is the favourite thing to spend money on?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Time

⁠⁠Question 7): ⁠⁠⁠What problem do you wish you could solve?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Ability to connect with more people. it is looking difficult now. So only wishing.

⁠⁠Question 8): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the nicest thing anyone’s ever said about you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I think this is same for every one. “I love you”.

⁠⁠Question 9): ⁠⁠⁠What is the one thing you will never do again?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Starting a business where I need to sell.

⁠⁠Question 10): ⁠⁠⁠What is your worst habit?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Shouting at others.

⁠⁠Question 11): ⁠⁠⁠What is the last book that you really loved?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Illusions. Did not read many, but this I read recently, and I liked it.

⁠⁠Question 12): ⁠⁠⁠How do you spend your days?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Thinking about  how to make use of all the people under me.

⁠⁠Question 13): ⁠⁠⁠Who knows you the best?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Wife

⁠⁠Question 14): ⁠⁠⁠With whom you would like to share a meal with?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Anyone from whom I can learn something or some girl.

⁠⁠Question 15): ⁠⁠⁠What’s on your mind lately?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠My family

⁠⁠Question 16): ⁠⁠⁠Would you prefer to be smart or happy and why?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Happy. because it is something we can work on. being smart is builtin skill, we can not do anything about it. So no point in wishing about it.

⁠⁠Question 17): ⁠⁠⁠What are your three weaknesses??

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠1. Unable to talk to girls 2. Unable to sell 3. Less Maths skills

⁠⁠Question 18): ⁠⁠⁠Unlimited love or money?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠love

⁠⁠Question 19): ⁠⁠⁠What is been your favourite age so far?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Now

⁠⁠Question 20): ⁠⁠⁠How would you describe yourself in three words?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠rational happy healthy

⁠⁠Question 21): ⁠⁠⁠How do you handle people you don’t like?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠avoid, ignore

⁠⁠Question 22): ⁠⁠⁠Do you think you are attractive?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠no

⁠⁠Question 23): ⁠⁠⁠What is your biggest turn on?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠from distance beauty, then passion to self improvement

⁠⁠Question 24): ⁠⁠⁠What is your best talent?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠thinking big but still connected to ground

⁠⁠Question 25): ⁠⁠⁠Describe your life using one word

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠happy

⁠⁠Question 26): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most extreme thing you have ever done?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Going to vijayawada(25km from home) to search for a girl who actually turrned out to be my sis’s friend trying to fool me as a mbbs student. Thats long back.

⁠⁠Question 27): ⁠⁠⁠What would you do with one million dollars?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Invest in some people

⁠⁠Question 28): ⁠⁠⁠How do you define success?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Achieving constant progress in what ever we want to do in life. A sense of improvement

⁠⁠Question 29): ⁠⁠⁠What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Running vimukti for this long.

⁠⁠Question 30): ⁠⁠⁠1. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Remove the desire/need for girls.
⁠⁠Question 31): ⁠⁠⁠Would you like to be famous? If, in what way?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No. But if by chance if I become famus, then I would like to be famus for doing things which I am pationate about.
⁠⁠Question 32): ⁠⁠⁠For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Having this much rich life, compared to many other people around.
⁠⁠Question 33): ⁠⁠⁠What do you like about yourself? Hate about yourself?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠like and hate are relative. So it has to be compared with others. Mostly nothing.
⁠⁠Question 34): ⁠⁠⁠How do you want people to remember you?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠After my life I don’t care how people remember me. Even I don’t care now, if I never get to know how they remember me. But if I do get to know, then ‘rational & smart guy’.
⁠⁠Question 35): ⁠⁠⁠If you could be a genius in any field, which would you choose?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not interested to be genius in any one field.Just want to be genius. If it counts as a field then ‘Ability to get work done’.
⁠⁠Question 36: ⁠⁠⁠What is the compliment that you would most like to hear?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠’would like to talk to you'(for general people). and ‘he can do it’ for people above my level.
⁠⁠Question 37): ⁠⁠⁠In what ways are you a leader? In what ways are you a follower?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠It is just a perception. For people below me I may look like leader, and for me, I know that I am always a follower.
⁠⁠Question 38): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most difficult for you to do?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Make sales. (Self or Product) and higher level of abstract thinking.
⁠⁠Question 39): ⁠⁠⁠Do you prefer to work alone or with others?why?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Others. Always. I get ideas when other people present the problem to me.
⁠⁠Question 40): ⁠⁠⁠Are you interested in managing or leading others? why or why not?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not now. But infuture yes. As of now I don’t have enough skill to do. But once I get, that is the only way to do big things in life.
⁠⁠Question 41): ⁠⁠⁠DO you consider yourself to be creative?If so, give example.
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠very little. My creativity is limited to finding solutions using some pre existing but non obvious things. Like when our company wanted to build messanger software, I said why not change existing open source code.
⁠⁠Question 42): ⁠⁠⁠What one thing would you be the most disappointed if you never got to experience it?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Finishing what ever project I am doing now. After that it will shift to next project. 🙂
⁠⁠Question 43): ⁠⁠⁠What are you most insecure about?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Afraid that total life I may have to live alone. Other than this, nothing.
⁠⁠Question 44): ⁠⁠⁠Describe a difficult situation or task that you had to deal with, and how you did so.
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Never did anything difficult. 🙂
⁠⁠Question 45): ⁠⁠⁠What is the scariest experience you have ever had?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I do not remember.
⁠⁠Question 46): ⁠⁠⁠What activity helps you feel peace of mind?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠eating 🙂
⁠⁠Question 47): ⁠⁠⁠What is one question you absolutely refuse to answer?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠none
⁠⁠Question 48): ⁠⁠⁠If could master one skill you don’t have right now, what would it be?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Ability to impress girls with least amount of effort. 🙂
⁠⁠Question 49): ⁠⁠⁠Would you rather be a jack of many trades or a master of one?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Jack of many trades.
⁠⁠Question 50): ⁠⁠⁠What’s your greatest achievement and how has it shaped you?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not so great achivements yet. (best one is running Vimukti). It helped me to tollerate the failure.
⁠⁠Question 51): ⁠⁠⁠What is your biggest turn off?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Showoff and bullshit.
⁠⁠Question 52): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the bravest thing you’ve ever done?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Recently asked one girl from office for lunch. That means, nothing that counts bigger than that.
⁠⁠Question 53): ⁠⁠⁠looks like you are fear of girls 🙂
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Getting rejected by them, hurts. And afraid of they may think bad about me.
⁠⁠Question 54): ⁠⁠⁠What possession means the most to you?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠You mean what I would like to possess?
⁠⁠Question 55): ⁠⁠⁠yes
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠People, Actually their time with me.
⁠⁠Question 56): ⁠⁠⁠Who is the person you’ve learnt the most from?
⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Lot of contributions from many.  Naming one single person wont be good answer.

⁠⁠Question 57): ⁠⁠⁠What’s your superpower?🙂

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠realization that health is much more imp than money. And happiness is in the process, not the destination.

⁠⁠Question 58): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the one sound that drives you crazy?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nothing I can remember.

⁠⁠Question 59): ⁠⁠⁠what is your goal and how are you working on that?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Only goal is to be happy while doing interesting stuff. By reading books, and writing code 🙂

⁠⁠Question 60): ⁠⁠⁠What is your strangest habit?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Eating lot of peanuts, mixing all curries into one. But they are strange to others, not to me.

⁠⁠Question 61): ⁠⁠⁠If you had three wishes, what would it be?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠1. Good people to spend time with. 2. Ability to abstract in higher level. (3rd one I don’t need).

⁠⁠Question 62): ⁠⁠⁠Tell me something about you that most people don’t know.

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Everything is public. Only some private stuff that should not go out for now are remaining.

⁠⁠Question 63): ⁠⁠⁠why do you choose your profession?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Interested in building stuff, and software is easy to build than hardware.

⁠⁠Question 64): ⁠⁠⁠What are the qualities you are expecting do be ur gf? And what she can expect from you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No bulshit, driven, open ness to learn and improve. Decent looking. She can expect companionship.

⁠⁠Question 65): ⁠⁠⁠What describes your personality….naughty or nice?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nice

⁠⁠Question 66): ⁠⁠⁠If you could wakeup tomorrow having gained one quality or ability, what would it be?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Impossible things also, or just possible stuff?

⁠⁠Question: ⁠⁠⁠Anything

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Ability to know what other person thinks

⁠⁠Question 67): ⁠⁠⁠What motivates you to succeed?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Pursuit of happiness by doing things. Success is just a by product some times.

⁠⁠Question 68): ⁠⁠⁠What is happiness according to you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Solving problems, doing new things

⁠⁠Question 69): ⁠⁠⁠Four things you are scared of?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Bad health, being alone in future. Nothing else.

⁠⁠Question 70): ⁠⁠⁠What would you like to change about yourself right now?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Shouting at others

⁠⁠Question 71): ⁠⁠⁠What is one piece of advice you give to others?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Stay healthy

⁠⁠Question 72): ⁠⁠⁠How would others describe you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠You have to ask others. Never asked others my self

⁠⁠Question 73): ⁠⁠⁠If you could change one law, what would it be?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Remove min 6 months notice for divorce. Then there will be more girls in the market to look for. 🙂

⁠⁠Question 74): ⁠⁠⁠What’s your greatest failure, and how did you overcome it?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No failures like that, had asthma for 18 years.

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Coming to hyd some how cured it. That was my biggest problem in life then

⁠⁠Question 75): ⁠⁠⁠Whar are you highly addicted to?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Presently peanuts.

⁠⁠Question 76): ⁠⁠⁠If you could go back in time to one point in your life, where would you go?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Can I come back?

⁠⁠Question : ⁠⁠⁠Just in thoughts, what is the first thing you think about?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nothing. I prefer not to go to any other time. I am perfectly fine with current time

⁠⁠Question 77): ⁠⁠⁠If Money were no object, what would you do with your life?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Exactly what ever I am doing now. Right now also I have money, don’t know what to do with

⁠⁠Question 78): ⁠⁠⁠If you could eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Mixed Veg curry 🙂

⁠⁠Question 79): ⁠⁠⁠What you choose to be: practical or formal, why?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Practical

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Formal I assume means to satisfy others. Not interested in that

⁠⁠Question 80): ⁠⁠⁠What are you looking forward to right now?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠A good relationship

⁠⁠Question 81): ⁠⁠⁠What are you working on right now?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Some software projects and above one

⁠⁠Question 82): ⁠⁠⁠want people to respect or love you?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Like

⁠⁠Question 83): ⁠⁠⁠What will be the most surprising moment if happened?

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Some one says I love you

⁠⁠Question 84): ⁠⁠⁠Last question for today, any favourite actress?😊

⁠⁠Ans: ⁠⁠⁠nope. they kept changing with age, and now not enough exposure to have favourite.


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