Travel to the hearts of the people

We all know many people who like to travel. I am not one of them. I am not afraid of travel. Only that I don’t get enough return at the end of the journey or while in the journey. Traveling 10hr to reach to a place and enjoy the plane enough to forget the pains of travel, is almost impossible for me. Those who can are lucky people, they know a way to enjoy which I can not.

But I think I know even better way. For me people are far more important then places. I never saw a photo of a place and have a instant feeling of wanting to be there. Never felt it. May be there is some disconnection in my brain related to those parts.

I think my lack of visual memory is a bit to blame here with places. I don’t remember any specific places we visualize it fully. Every thing I see becomes like a text and gets stored in the brain. I know I have seen some place, I can even recognize it. But It will loose all its visual information once I close my eyes.

But I have seen many people or known about them with whom I want to spend time. In a way it is much harder task than visiting places. With places it is kind of one side conversation. People do have feelings, they have emotions, knowledge, experience etc. What we can share with a person can never be done with a place. A place does not know what you feel about it. You like it or not, it will still be there. They do change, but you are just a spectator to its change. You have no say in its change.

With people, it is totally different. Every person changes us and we change them. Some positive some negative. It all depends on how we want to change. Even if we don’t change, experience of being with some one makes us rich. Rich with knowledge.

So here is my crazy plan.

Live with different people every 2 weeks. Eating with them sleeping with them(well, not that way), going to offices, share personal feelings, opinions, problems, solutions, ideas etc. In a way be part of the family for total duration.

I lived with other people in hostels or in relatives homes when I am kid. But after I have grown up, it never happened.
Some of us live with friends in rooms, hostels. But most of the times our friends are just like us. Mostly the perspective will be same. I would like to make it as diverse as possible.

A single mom, Young couple, A Couple with one or two young kids, A Doctor, A Lawyer, A Scientist, A Mathematician, A Programmer, A Banker, A Receptionist, Different Country(s), Different Language(s),Different economic background(s) and so on. There are different kinds in each of these, so the possibilities are endless. I prefer all these people to be either a family, or couple or single women. No more single guys (Sorry guys). Being with single guys is always possible and does not seem that much challenging (and interesting).

So if you want to join this crazy experiment and want to invite me, please contact me. Or you can always suggest some interesting people you know about it. May be your friends are interested.

During the stay I can pay for all my expenses and also contribute to collective expenses. In case if you are wondering I will not be making any moves in the direction of love, sex etc. I can adjust in all kinds of environments. Will try to keep my health as top priority, other than that you wont be facing any issues from my side. I will share every thing openly(if you are okey to receive). You can share anything with me, and all your secrets will remain secret. I will be writing about my experience during and after. You can find out what a third person thinks about any of your stuff(things, feelings, ideas etc). I will give you feedback, suggestions. (in the writing which I will publish). I will anonymize all information about you(Optional).

The reason for choosing 2 weeks is to make it long enough to know a person fully. When we meet for single day, we all act. And I want to know real you, so it takes time. And it is not long enough to get bored(I hope). And if it gets bored, we can reduce it to 1 week.

After end of each experience, I believe I will be having one more friend or a family friends to count on. Not every relation lasts, many do.

What do you think? Are you in?

Looking for a girlfriend. Any questions?

It might surprise some of you, and those who really know me it should not be a surprise. Surprise may not be because I am looking for girlfriend, but for saying so. I believe almost every man does look for girlfriends. Even if they are married and have kids. It is very rare some one may not want one. (they might have very good memory of some tragic event). Problem is most people are not allowed to say it, and some are afraid to say.

Well, lucky me. I am not afraid to say it, and also I even got permission to say it. Yes, permission to have a girlfriend given by my wife. (she is very kind, or may be confident that I will never find one). I think this is the biggest hurdle men face in expressing their thoughts on the subject.

Now, why do I need a girlfriend?

You might already know that I have decided to live for more than 120 years. So another 9 decades to go. Who knows I may extend it to 12 decades. After some years your spouse will become almost same as you, habits interchange and know each other completely. In a way you two become one. It may sound romantic, but it is real. You will not feel them as different person.

In life we always need some thing to do. Some people do jobs, and some like be struggle with some crazy business plans. Anyway we are here to enjoy life. You do what ever that gives you enjoyment. We don’t do lot of travel, and I can not do more business at once (no one suggests it, and hard). But (I think) I can do some thing in this space.

Till now I had only two girlfriends. One is a happy mother in some other continent( hi dear, how are you?), and other one is beside me. Some of you may say 2 is more than enough. May be. Life is a journey. And they are our travel companions. First journey was much shorter and second is long enough to be habituated to. You know what I mean. Total it is around 14 years. But 14 years in 120+ life is too short. What do you say? still not convinced? You are crazy.

So why am I posting all this here?

I don’t have many friends. I don’t do job(like in other big companies), I am married, I don’t go to many parties, I don’t travel, never started a conversation offline with a girl, never proposed anything, never got proposed 🙂 (how many of you got proposed btw? In India this should be <10% I think). Considering all this, what other option I got to let the world know that I am still looking and available? So that is why I am posting here.

Those of you boys still not married and looking for girlfriend, sorry guys. What to do. We have to compete. Life is a struggle.

This is like a new job search. I have to decide what I need, apply, get rejected, try again and again. Lets see how it goes.

It is easy when you are single. Now it is somewhat complicated. I have to figure out what I need, why I need. I have to be clear with the other person too on this. What are the rules? and what are the ‘what if’ cases. etc. I will publish some of them as I continue through this journey.

You might be having lot of questions, please send them to in email, messages etc. I will anonymize the question and will answer them. May be the question will help me, or you or some other people. Don’t hesitate to ask.

Looking forward to your questions….


Post: Friend

Eligibility: Known reference

Application: Just send a mail or call me

Process & Details :
During the Friendturnship you are allowed to stay with me in my house for 24 to 48 hours(along with other members of my family). You will be like a family member during that period.

I believe, every one wants to make friends. But we want to make friends, who actually make us happy with their presence. For finding a good friend we need to see how they act in their normal life. And staying together even for one or two days will greatly improve the chance of understanding each other. We will have plenty of time to talk about each other and all the background information to judge a person. Once we know each other we will anyway decide how to take it further.

We may like each other or not. But we will know that we have tried.

You may be doing a job or got married or what ever situation. For that Friendturnship duration you can consider my home as your home.

For more details: Contact me