Principles: Basic and Management principles

Just now finished reading RayDalio’s Principles

I wish I read it couple of year back. But anyway it is never late to learn a lesson. Ray is publishing a book on this this year. But for those who don’t want to wait till then follow the above link to get the draft version of it. I found it on internet. If any one has access to more recent version please let me know.

If at all I start any company in future, it will be operating on these principles. If  I join some company, I would like to see at least some of these principles in that organization.

I recommend this for anyone who is running a company or managing a team. And his basic principles apply to every one else who wants to succeed in life.

What kind of place I want to work at?

As my position at PurpleTalk as VP of Technology has ended, I got the opportunity to think what kind of place I want to work at. It is not an easy question for most of the people. We normally don’t think of it too much. When we join a new job, we see what the company is doing, if it fits our career path, then join else don’t join. That is how we normally decide.

As I have not worked in any company other than my own for major part of my professional life, I thought I am flexible and I can adjust. In fact I did. I did adjust a lot. But does adjusting means compromising your principles? I don’t think so. So I tried not to compromise on them, with say about 60% success rate.

Last month I was listening to a great podcast of Naval Ravikant and he said some thing related to honesty.

“I think honesty is a core, core, core value. To give you examples of what I mean by honesty is I want to be able to just be me. I never want to be in an environment or around people where I have to watch what I say.”

I absolutely recommend his podcast for any one who reads my blog. There will be some thing to learn for sure.

Immediately when I heard it, it went straight into my head. I thought about it and immediately decided that I need to act on it very soon. When you can not be what you are, and you are forced to act, is that worth it? I am sure you all agree that it is not.

But the question is we all do that every day. We all go to jobs, and at least some part of our job, we do act. We dont tell what we think, and we tell what other people like to hear, and we get uncomfortable(or get habituated) and come back. At the end of the day we get our salary, and we feel happy about it.

So how much of acting is worth. For most of us life is not a path of roses. We can not choose all our places of working, we all have to make compromises. If we want money, we need to settle of less than ideal working conditions. If some one else is paying, you got to do what they say. I understand it completely and agree with it.

But the major question remains, how much acting should we tolerate? Well, that depends on how lucky you are, and what your requirements are. Some how I got this question after 15 to 16 years of my professional life. I did not do acting while I am my own boss. And tried to do same even with my investors. I did make them agree too. But it is better to make them angry then cheat them with false hope/belief.

I think now I need to put an end to this acting once for all. And I think I can afford that price. Principles are free to take, but costly to maintain. Depending on where you are on your journey in life, you need to decide if that cost of the principles is good enough to keep or lose.

Thanks to one of my friend who referred me to “Ray Dalio“. Just watch couple of videos of  his. It is an extra ordinary organization which he runs. BridgeWater is a worlds largest hedge fund with 1500 employees. They operate based on “Radical Truth, and Radical Transparency”. Every meeting in the company is transparent(video recorded) and any one else in the company can see and question any decision and discuss about what is discussed. No one will talk about any person behind their back. So it is the proof that an organization can be built on truth and transparency.

Either I want to build such an organization, or I want to help other companies build it. Because I inherently believe in openness and truthfulness.

To summarize, here are couple of points that I want in my next place of work.

  1. Transparency
  2. Honesty
  3. Meritocracy
  4. More intimate relations with the people I work with
  5. Place where my skills can be put to best use, rather than waste my time in making a power point beautiful which most non-tech persons can do much better than me.
  6. Data driven decision making
  7. Where I can make difference to people’s lives. (Employees, or customers)

 

Single Again: How to lose a great wife and still be happy?

Lets start from the beginning. First we need to get a good wife. 🙂 I am assuming you know that already. Do you? I don’t think many people who are looking for good partner know this. So for the sake of those here is some things that matter and some that does not matter.

What matters

  • A common language to communicate with.
  • Answer to “What to do” for most of the time.
  • Respect for the individual, even if we don’t like the opinions.
  • A Journey to share. A task or a goal etc.
  • Slight dependency even if it is created just for its sake.
  • Honest communication.
  • And ability to tolerate the honesty.
  • Knowing what to know and what not to know.
  • Trust and submission for first betrayal.

What does not matter

  • Caste, Religion
  • When you wake up and when they wake up
  • What you eat and what they eat
  • How they cook, and how they smell
  • How many times you have sex per month
  • Does she/he like your parents or not.
  • How much she or he earns (after the basic needs).
  • What kind of job she or he does.
  • What gifts, cloths, etc she or he bought for you.

I am telling this from my example. But I have seen them working in many other cases. You pick any point of incompatibility, I will show you exactly another couple perfectly happy even with that incompatibility. But as these number of incompatibilities increases the chances of people crossing those limits decreases.

I am a lucky person. I don’t have good memory. So actually except one or 2 cases I don’t remember any fights I had with my wife. I never stopped talking to her for more than 2 days I guess. And actually I never started a fight myself 🙂 (again you have to take my memory into consideration here). I never mixed two different points/disagreements in one fight. All disagreements are as far as I member about the way I shout :-). No matter what the starting point, it always came down to that. And even thought I tried it, I never actually committed myself to change it.

I never bought her single gift or dress or any ornaments etc. Never in 10 years. I let her use my card for some time initially, but later I think she bought much more for me with her own money. I don’t think we ever talked on phone for more than 10minutes in last 10 years. What ever it was just a quick message in chat.

I did not hide anything from her and nor will I ever do that. From silly crush on girls in my own office to current office. She knows every thing.  She used to have some thing private, but I never forced. Not every person is same. Just because you told her everything, expecting her to tell everything is wrong. It does not work that way. You be as you want to be, no matter how others behave. Your behaviors should not change much because of how other behave. If you are trying to act as a mirror then no one will ever know who you really are. They just see their reflection and which is never you.

No one know you more than your partner. If that is not the case, then you should not call them as partners. 🙂 Same here. Well we had enough time 16+ years totally. I think that is good enough time together.

I lose my wife because now we want to enhance our lives even more. We want to follow our dreams and which happened to be in different directions. When I say I lose my wife it only means that title. The person is there, and the way she thinks about me, and the way I think about her is same. You live with your brothers and sisters for say 20 years? In that how many years you are actually aware? may be 15. We are together for 16 years. So she is part of my life as my siblings or even more than them.

I know that not every one thinks similar about marriage and divorce. Because not every one is as wise as me 🙂 But we need to live as we think, not as some one else thinks.

I thank my wife for the 16+ years of journey. Now the roads are little different, but does not matter. We know that we will be there for each other for the rest of our lives.

So how to lose a good wife? 1) Get good wife first 2) Dream too big and let her dream too. 3) Make sure your dreams are little different direction than hers.4) Act on your dreams, don’t just dream.

Note for girls: Just let me reiterate for you. I am single now. 🙂 So I think I have the right to ask you for a lunch or dinner or for a walk. So be prepared. I will call her my wife, until some one else replaces that role. So don’t mind if I don’t use ‘ex wife’.

Meaningful Relations

I was talking to a Israeli women yesterday and our conversation went like this.


IW: I’m looking for someone Israeli. I’m a language person, so having a meaningful relationship in any language other than Hebrew would be odd for me. ​

ME: I wish you a good day before your travel. I know you are a language person. Actually that is what really caught my attention. I am trying to learn new languages. May be not spending as much time as I should be. I understand the fact that most of the times we prefer the people who talk in our native language. My native language is Telugu. Even though my English skills are not as good as my Telugu skills, I have found that I can have serious discussions and even talk about internal feelings in that English. I think it is just matter of habit. ​

And regarding the words ‘meaningful relation’. There can be so many interpretations possible for it. But I would choose some thing like this ‘a relation where you would be willing to allocate some time per week to just to be with the other person and do what ever those two people like to do together. May be talk about books, movies, ideas, or learn new stuff etc’. ​
One of the most valuable thing we all have is our time. And by allocating time for some one we are actually telling that they are worth that much. And we value the company the other person. ​
Do we want to spend all our time in life with one person whom we have sex with? I don’t think so. In my view there can be so many meaningful relationships possible at same time. ​
Just sharing my views, I hope you don’t mind. ​
Now actually I wish you actually find your Israeli guy(if you can not let that requirement go), and we can still look forward to the possibility of some other entirely different meaningful relation. 😀​

IW: Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I too believe that we can have several meaningful relationship. :-)​

ME: Now that you even said sorry to some one whom you don’t know and might never talk again, and clearly could have ignored, why do you think I will let you go with your excuse on that I don’t know Hebrew. Where will I find such a good person. 🙂 just kidding…. Am I? 😀​
Thank you, your acknowledgement made my day. I can spend rest of my weekend in day dreams. 😀​

To be frank I am not looking for a person whom I think will make me happy some day in future. I know the fact that happiness depends on us not the other person. I am looking for the experience of life. I was a husband, am a brother, son and engineer, some teaching, some entrepreneurship​, some student etc. These are all different experiences of life. There are infinite possibilities of them. But with our limited time we can experience only some of them. So why to limit our self to even narrow list? For example ‘be XYZ of a beautiful Israeli women’ what ever that XYZ is, does not matter how small or big that is. As long as it adds value(experience) to our life it is worth it. ​

I might sound desperate, actually I am. But not for one particular person or relation, but for a experience filled life. I think it is worth being desperate for. What we don’t have is time. Some experiences are not possible as we grow older. Even though I am aiming for 150 years. 🙂 still not enough. ​


The point here is not about how I am trying to impress this women. It is about “Meaningful Relations”. I have seen this word used by girls when they say in dating sites ‘I am looking for a serious meaningful relation’. Actually what they are talking about is a husband. But when we actually look our lives, all the people we talk to and all the people we like to interact, we see that except one or 2 people rest of all people are not life partners. They are parents, sisters, brothers, relatives, friends, colleagues, class mates, room mates etc.

What we like in each of these people is different. Some times you have a brother you never call, but you have a friend you always talk to. Or you have a relative never seen in life, but when you need they will help you. What we get out of each person actually depends on what our relation with that person. Some times we give that relation a name, but just because you gave it a name all relations with that name are not equal. What Brother or Sister means to you is different than what it means to me. The name of the relation is just a convenience to refer it when we talk. But the relation itself is much more than it.

But what people does not seem to understand is even the relation of Wife or Husband is also same thing. We are habituated to give names to relations and then forget that they are more than names.

Some people you want for having sex with. Some people you want to talk to your dreams. Some people you need to talk to your professional life, or etc etc. We don’t have to start deciding what each person is for to you until you both talk and decide. Some people can play multiple roles in your life. Why do we have to expect everything from single person say wife or husband? We know it does not work, and it is not meaningful.

Our relations are like colors in a color spectrum. Each one is different, unique, and scattered around on that spectrum.

I hope I have given you some thing to think about. If you have some thing to say about these, please reach out. I am happy to talk on these subjects always.

 

Let go of the ego

One of the things I am trying to learn is how to let go of my ego. There are various things in my life which I think I can associate with ego or some definitions of it.

Here are some scenarios where I think I used find it.

  1. When I know my idea is better than what some one else if suggesting.
  2. When I know that some one who is talking has no idea of what he is talking.
  3. When some one say to me that I am no better than any average guy. In what ever context.
  4. When I send a message to some girl and expect a reply.
  5. When a relative is telling about some one who earned so and so more than me.

May  be there are some other cases, but I don’t remember now.

It seems all of this are mostly related to avoiding failure, or not appearing as failure. I think there is a cultural problem in accepting and embracing failure in life. We believe too much in success, and we praise successful people too much, even if we know that most if it was just luck.

I think I have already addressed the last one(5th) in my character. Once you read enough, and seen enough, you will realize that what ever we got is already much more than what we need. Almost all the people I know are earning more than what they need. There are very less number of people who worked with me or I came across who are earning less than they need. But it is not too far to think they will cross that line soon. Some people cross the line faster than others. As my needs are less, mine is easy. Some people just keep pushing the line further, their wish. But in a way every one got what they need. Now after that how much you earn is of no value. Some one earns 30, some one gets 3, we do still see these as differences in their talent. But it is not. It is just pure circumstances. Why do we have to care how much one earns. I think we need to care is about what one is doing with ones life.

I still need to address the 3rd point. It needs constant monitoring of my thoughts in that heated moment. If I am self aware, then I take them light. But if I am lost track of my self, most probably I send to get upset due to the ego that always says I am better than average. If we are better or not why do we care. What difference will it make? I will keep working on this aspect. I need to be self aware as much time as possible. Meditation seems to be a good way to do it. Still in very early stage.

The main reason why I thought of posting this article is about  the 4th point. When I send a message to a girl and she does not reply, what do I feel. Do I feel hurt because of my ego? I leave it to your imagination of what kind of messages they are. Always imagination is much more interesting then reality. 🙂 right?

Yesterday I sent a message, I do send them even thought I know there is less chance of a reply. In that case why do I send them? Actually the point of this post is, why do I even need to care the reason for sending? Why can’t I send it without any regrets or feelings of ego hurt? To give you a clear perspective let me give you an example, You found a perfect girl/boy. You asked them for dinner. They gave you a ugly look and rejected outright as if it was foolish to even ask. Now what ever you feel is the one I am talking now. What is it? Is it ego? Do we get disappointed, yes. But that is not the issue. Can we dare to ask immediately next day? What is stopping us? Making yourself fools in-front of some one else? So what is the problem in that? Is not willing to make fool of yourself is not ego? Do we need to let it go? What happens when every is 100% willing to be fool at any time. What kind of world will it be? We all know it is not possible.

Now take for instance Dalai Lama. Can he make himself to be a fool in front of others? If he can not, does he really spiritual leader? It only means that he is still think what he is of more value or important then what he is when he is being a fool. Not sure how many people in the world can put themselves in such situations and come out of it without any feeling of guilt or angry etc.

I used to think people who does not value themselves are kind of stupid. Well actually now it seems the other way.

I am thinking I should let go of this feeling. Be stupid when ever I want. Let others think what ever they want. As long as we are not hurting anyone, I suppose this is okey.

What are the limits you can go to being a stupid or a fool?

Vegan again : Now with better reasons

For some time in last year I became vegan for some months. The reason at that time was that eating animal proteine is going to cause cancer and all the dairy products will have all animal harmones which are required for the kid of that anomal and not for human body.

Even though those reasons are perfectly valid, I some how got tempted by the taste of Chicken Biryani. First the excuse of late night dinners in office for some project work, and then excuse of fasting. As I do fast for 24hr to 72hrs a week, I give justification that I need to eat Chicken to get enough nutrients. There is no valid theory or math behind it.

After reading ‘Sapiens’ and then ‘Homo Deus’ by Yuval Noah Harari now I want to go back to Vegan again.

The reason now is much more compelling and natually close to my personality and attitude. Harari reminds us that those farm animals might have emotions. They might have conciousness and they might feel just like us. Even though Chicken and Diary industry is not as crual as it is in western countries, as we keep eating those stuff, it will soon become similar to that. The way that industry works is very very crual, and it is almost impossible for me to tolerate all that cruality. A one second thought of putting myself in the place of those animals is horrible.

Actually this is the reason why I stopped eating chiken when I was still in school. I could not tolerate the cruality which I saw in my NCC camp.

So decided to become vegan again.

Regarding compensating the fasting, I might just have to eat some quality food. Looking more towards flax seeds for protein and fat. Need to make better recipies with that ingradient.

Why I wont stand for forced national anthem playing

First of all I am not a Patriot. I have clarified this long back here. https://rajesh.vimukti.com/2013/08/i-am-not-a-patriot/ And that is the reason I said “Indian National Anthem” not “Our”.

Here are some questions for those  who can actually think. (others: sorry I give up).

Consider you born in current Pakistan. So you will also be having your own national anthem. Right? And if they decided to play it in before the start of movies, you will stand up. Right?

If Yes: So for you it just does not matter that is being played, it just matters on where you are born. What about after your 25th year you went to China, And you married a Chinese partner. Now your national anthem is some thing different. So now you will feel pride for that song and land. Now after another 10 years, you came to India and you liked the place. You became Indian citizen. Now your pride and respect will be for this new song. Right?

If Yes: Now imagine that China and Pakistan has declared war on India, and war is going on in some controlled part of North East. Not a full war, but like Kargil. But due to some issue you are struck in China, and you are in some Chinese movie theater and their national anthem is being played. Will you stand up? And feel pride for Chinese song?

If Yes: Then you are just a robot without any of your own thoughts or you are just a coward who is just afraid what others will think and do to you.

NOW I am not a robot. And I am not a coward.

If No to any of the above, then you got to explain to me why not. How it is different than feeling pride and respect for one country vs 3 countries?

For those of you who feel pride for your country, can you explain why? What actually is pride? How many of you felt pride for India making nuclear weapons?(I did at that time, I know I was stupid then).  Just imagine that you are born in some other enemy state, (if there is one). Would you feel proud too? No. So all your reactions are based on something that is uncontrolled by you. Like your color, sex, religion and place of birth. People should feel proud only when they actually thought and did something for which they are happy for. I don’t think being born in India is what I thought of doing myself. It was just an accident, and I don’t have to feel proud for accidents.

Trump! Trump! Trump! WTF!

I thought of avoiding this subject till now. But due to increased presure while seeing FB posts, I was forced to respond.

Here is my question for those opposing Trump.

Why are you opposing Trump when he is actually delivering what he has promised in election manifesto? We all know him before election itself, what kind of person he is, and we all know what he will do if elected. But still you guys have elected him. If not you, may be your friends or other people in your country. So if you have anything to say, it is with those people who voted him. Also more than that you need to talk about those who did not even go to vote.

Some source tells me that they are more people did not vote than those who voted for Trump or Clinton. Also you need to question the system of election where some one can become president with this much opposition.

So stop talking about him or what he is doing. First talk about what made him come there, and how you want it to be fixed.

Travel to the hearts of the people

We all know many people who like to travel. I am not one of them. I am not afraid of travel. Only that I don’t get enough return at the end of the journey or while in the journey. Traveling 10hr to reach to a place and enjoy the plane enough to forget the pains of travel, is almost impossible for me. Those who can are lucky people, they know a way to enjoy which I can not.

But I think I know even better way. For me people are far more important then places. I never saw a photo of a place and have a instant feeling of wanting to be there. Never felt it. May be there is some disconnection in my brain related to those parts.

I think my lack of visual memory is a bit to blame here with places. I don’t remember any specific places we visualize it fully. Every thing I see becomes like a text and gets stored in the brain. I know I have seen some place, I can even recognize it. But It will loose all its visual information once I close my eyes.

But I have seen many people or known about them with whom I want to spend time. In a way it is much harder task than visiting places. With places it is kind of one side conversation. People do have feelings, they have emotions, knowledge, experience etc. What we can share with a person can never be done with a place. A place does not know what you feel about it. You like it or not, it will still be there. They do change, but you are just a spectator to its change. You have no say in its change.

With people, it is totally different. Every person changes us and we change them. Some positive some negative. It all depends on how we want to change. Even if we don’t change, experience of being with some one makes us rich. Rich with knowledge.

So here is my crazy plan.

Live with different people every 2 weeks. Eating with them sleeping with them(well, not that way), going to offices, share personal feelings, opinions, problems, solutions, ideas etc. In a way be part of the family for total duration.

I lived with other people in hostels or in relatives homes when I am kid. But after I have grown up, it never happened.
Some of us live with friends in rooms, hostels. But most of the times our friends are just like us. Mostly the perspective will be same. I would like to make it as diverse as possible.

A single mom, Young couple, A Couple with one or two young kids, A Doctor, A Lawyer, A Scientist, A Mathematician, A Programmer, A Banker, A Receptionist, Different Country(s), Different Language(s),Different economic background(s) and so on. There are different kinds in each of these, so the possibilities are endless. I prefer all these people to be either a family, or couple or single women. No more single guys (Sorry guys). Being with single guys is always possible and does not seem that much challenging (and interesting).

So if you want to join this crazy experiment and want to invite me, please contact me. Or you can always suggest some interesting people you know about it. May be your friends are interested.

During the stay I can pay for all my expenses and also contribute to collective expenses. In case if you are wondering I will not be making any moves in the direction of love, sex etc. I can adjust in all kinds of environments. Will try to keep my health as top priority, other than that you wont be facing any issues from my side. I will share every thing openly(if you are okey to receive). You can share anything with me, and all your secrets will remain secret. I will be writing about my experience during and after. You can find out what a third person thinks about any of your stuff(things, feelings, ideas etc). I will give you feedback, suggestions. (in the writing which I will publish). I will anonymize all information about you(Optional).

The reason for choosing 2 weeks is to make it long enough to know a person fully. When we meet for single day, we all act. And I want to know real you, so it takes time. And it is not long enough to get bored(I hope). And if it gets bored, we can reduce it to 1 week.

After end of each experience, I believe I will be having one more friend or a family friends to count on. Not every relation lasts, many do.

What do you think? Are you in?

Open Heart with Rajesh – 2

This is continuation of the previous post with some more questions. One or two questions might repeat, hopefully they present you different prospectives of me.
Question 85): What’s more important,  truth or happiness. Why?
Ans: Happiness. Most of others do not have mental capacity to take truth

Question 86): Would you rather be rich or famous (can’t be both)?
Ans: Rich. I don’t need them actually. So between those rich is better choice.

Question 87): Why not famous ?
Ans: I don’t want to spend my time thinking about others. Being famous forces. It gives no value to my self.

Question 88): You believe it is vital to everyday life to know what is happening in the world around you? Explain.
Ans: A bit. But The definition of world around matters. Most people read useless news paper to know stuff that is of no value. Need to know big trends in state, country, and world. Mostly technology. Small details about which cinema for how much collections, which politician said what is useless.

Question 89): Knowing about technology is enough?
Ans: Mostly enough

Question 90): World is only technology? You mean other than technology everything is useless?
Ans: I read only tech news and they cover what I need from other areas also. Like overview of other stuff. You need very less of other stuff.

Question 91): Its better to learn about technology,  right?
Ans: Yes, Science and technology. Unless knowing other stuff is entertainment for you

Question 92): What are your career goals in 5, 10 and 15 years?
Ans: None. I have no career goals. I just started my career, and yet to get connected with that word.

Question 93): If you were told only had a week left to live,  what would you do?
Ans: Purpose to two or there girls first. Then if time is there write some thing down.

Question 94): Write something?
Ans: Not sure. Mostly will not get time. Would like to experience love.

Question 95): Did you ever do something that you didn’t want to,  just to fit in?
Ans: Yes, attend meetings in office. Not to fit it, but had to. Never did if that is optional. Did things not to hurt others. But that does not count as fit in. Never did anything to fit in I think.

Question 96): Will you do? Just to fit in?
Ans: No

Question 97): Are there any causes that you strongly- believe in?
Ans: Not sure what counts as causes

Question 98): What is the thing that you strongly believe?
Ans: This is meta question. Most of other answers are derivations from this. If you want short one… “Nothing matters”

Question 99): If you try any job for one day what would you choose?
Ans: Minister of education for state.

Question 100): How you would like the education system should be?
Ans: More choices, teach how to solve real problems

Question 101): What is the rank you are giving for present system?
Ans: 2 Out of 10

Question 102): you want others to know about you 100%? or what is now is enough?
Ans: I don’t mind if they know. But I post as it is no -ve for me. It may even add a bit. May help some girl to find me.

Question 103): What are you tired of hearing about?
Ans: Not getting many candidates to choose from. I normally avoid people who talk what I don’t like. May be I will answer later when I get in mind.

Question 104): What were you really into when you were younger but now think is silly?
Ans: I wanted to become a ‘Sanyasi’. I believed in god etc. And I blame Vivekananda for it. Or who ever written those books which are published under his name.

Question 105): What is the highest pressure situation you have experienced and how did you handle it?
Ans: I don’t remember much . But I think delivering or releasing some project long back. The feel pressure when I owe someone(money, compliance, code). I hate that feeling. I don’t remember how I did. Mostly okey I think. I try not to owe anything to anyone.⁠⁠⁠⁠

Question 106): What’s something you were really stressed about, it turned out to be no big deal?
Ans: Most of govt compliance issues. We just need to delegate it to some one who knows how to do.Now learned not to take them serious. There will be some procedure to handle it. and can be done.

Question 107): my question is different I think
Ans: Do not remember any one particular incident. Never got that much stressed on anything else

Question 108): what three events made the biggest impact on you who are you today?
Ans: 1. Buying my first computer. 2. Sending “hi” msg to my wife 3. Quitting +2 and joining Diploma. Thinking rational is biggest one, but that is not one time event

Question 109): What you choose: give up once lost the  patience or wait for the  result?
Ans: wrong question I think. if you loose patience then any one one will give up. If waiting means not given up. But most of the times, I give up some things and some I wait. But those I wait are my irrational behaviours that deal with my feelings. And those I give up are the mostly rational financial decisions.

Question 110): Can you wait for long?
Ans: I think I can wait for long compared to many others.

Question 111): What is the biggest doubt you have?
Ans: What do girls think? 🙂 or to be specific “what does she think”

Question 112): What do you think you know a lot about but probably don’t?
Ans: in other side, can I learn math if I start from scratch again? Actually this is also wrong question. Only way I can answer something to this is that if I just realized that I don’t know something. If I answer A, then it means I know that I probably dont. So I will not think I know a lot.

Question 113): What one question can you ask someone to find out the most about them?
Ans: What are the list of 4 questions which you want to ask some one to select them as your life partner?

Question 114): What do you think was silly until you tried it?
Ans: None. I never tried anything that is contradicting my views. And even if I try it rarely happened that I changed my view.

Question 115): What’s the most unusual but fun experience you’ve had?
Ans: Walking on road without shirt. May be not that much fun. Seems like not done enough things in life.

Question 116): Which aspect of your life is going really well right now and which aspect could you see help with?
Ans: Almost all except finding girlfriend are going fine. Only need help in that part. And maths. See even if the question is different, answers are coming as same.

Question 117): What was the most awkward conversation you ever had with someone?
Ans: When I had to convince a girl not to take serious note of who gave her number 🙂 (after she rejected for lunch/dinner).

Question 118): What fact do you try to ignore?
Ans: Good question. The near zero probability of finding a girl friend with the qualities I need.

Question 119): What simple change could you make in your life that would have the biggest positive impact?
Ans: Just started one experiment. For one year I will not hurt anyone with my words. Made a list of ~20 things to do while dealing with people. Hopefully it should removing the reputation that I am harsh. Started 3 days back. It is very easy to do actually. I will post the list in the blog.

Question 120): What job doesn’t exist but should?
Ans: Rationality finder. A consultant who questions all our irrational behaviours

Question 121): What do most of the people think about you that is totally untrue?
Ans: That I am anti social.

Question 122): What high level do you think you could lie your way into with no experience?
Ans: I can not lie. I am not comfortable.

Question 123): What is the most impressive thing you know how to do?
Ans: Being happy most of the time. And I think I can build some impressive software but not sure exactly what it will do. 😀
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Question 124): ⁠⁠⁠What is something most people do easily but you find very difficult?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Talk to people as if they care.
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Question 125): ⁠⁠⁠What is something that many people take seriously but should not?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠What others think of them. Unless it directly impacts them.
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Question 126): ⁠⁠⁠What is something that you have never told anyone?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠None. I told everything.
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Question 127): ⁠⁠⁠What is your nemesis?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠What does that mean?
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Question 128): ⁠⁠⁠What you hate most?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Bulshit
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Question 129): ⁠⁠⁠Do you believe in love at first sight? 😊
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No, ⁠⁠⁠I believe in dreams at first sight. 🙂
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Question 130): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the best thing about being male?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Probability of getting raped is less, and no problem with periods. Nothing else.
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Question 131): ⁠⁠⁠What double standard is ridiculous and needs to be ended?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Girls saying that boys want them for external beauty, and they do all the things just to attract them with that beauty only. This is not a big thing, but that is only thing getting in mind.
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Question 132): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most disgusting habit you have?
Ans: None.
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Question 133): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most interesting piece if trivia you know?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Most of the people fake their knowledge, seems like others act as they value it even if they know it.
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Question 134): ⁠⁠⁠What is society doing now that in 20 years will be laughed at and ridiculed?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠buying cars
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Question 135): ⁠⁠⁠Why do you think buying cars?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠in 20 years self driving cars will be there, and they will come when needed. no one will buy cars then. ⁠⁠⁠maybe people will still buy them, but driving cars is laughed at. ⁠⁠⁠will be
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Question 136): ⁠⁠⁠Who are some people you only met once but they left a big impression on you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠None. I never remember anyone whom I met only once.
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Question 137): ⁠⁠⁠Would you rather always be 10 minutes late or always be 20 minutes early?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠20min early
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Question 138): ⁠⁠⁠What would constitute a ‘perfect’ day for you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Spending a day in discussions and planning a project which involves a clever solution. Or talking total day with a girl having interesting view of life.
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠I treat both at equal.
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Question 139): ⁠⁠⁠I think by these answers many can know your interest towards girls.
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠but those who read does not need it. they already know. ⁠⁠⁠Those who need to read it wont read as they dont know it exists.
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Question 140): ⁠⁠⁠Can i paste your blog link to any?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Sure, ⁠⁠⁠Anyone. ⁠⁠⁠It is public
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Question 141): ⁠⁠⁠What is the probability of beauty you see?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Means?
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Question 142): ⁠⁠⁠How girl should look like?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Confident and healthy.⁠⁠⁠If beauty is not there, then extra care has to go to dressing
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Question 143): ⁠⁠⁠Not clear
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not sure what to tell then. ⁠⁠⁠Ask again
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Question 144): ⁠⁠⁠You want a good looking girl? ⁠⁠⁠Her beauty matters?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Decent enough is needed. ⁠⁠⁠Beauty matters when minds are same. ⁠⁠⁠But mind matters when beauty is same. ⁠⁠⁠80:20 mind vs beauty. ⁠⁠⁠Beauty is only needed when person is far. If near, then only mind matters mostly. ⁠⁠⁠But as there is no way to judge mind from distance I can only see beauty.
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Question 145): ⁠⁠⁠Do you agree that a woman’s mind is most difficult to understand?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I don’t think so. ⁠⁠⁠Should be same. May be due to culture they became closed entities. They can not openly speak what they need or want may be
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Question 146): ⁠⁠⁠Are you changing as fast as the world around us?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Much faster than in some aspects, slow in other. ⁠⁠⁠Faster than others in some aspects.
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Question 147): ⁠⁠⁠How do you define patience and humbleness?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Patience is valuing your relationship than your time. Humbleness is realizing that we/ what we have is the result of other people or just luck.
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Question 148): ⁠⁠⁠What roles do love and affection play in your life?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Very less actually. I normally don’t show much affection. And I don’t do any major thing just because I love some one.
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Question 149): ⁠⁠⁠What is the biggest dream you have to be fulfilled?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Building a AI machine.
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Question 150): ⁠⁠⁠In the past few months,  what is the smallest change you have made that has had biggest positive result?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Last week stopped shouting at people. Other than that did not make any changes.
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Question 151): ⁠⁠⁠what are the most important decisions you make as a leader of your organization?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Investing in Machine Learning, VR, AR. Also that training is much more important than just telling them. (still need to act on these)
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Question 152): ⁠⁠⁠What’s your philosophy in life?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠There is no meaning to life. So we just have to create our own. So mine is “be happy while doing interesting things. ”
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Question 153): ⁠⁠⁠Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I never thought what I wanted to do after I grow up. OR I don’t remember. I don’t plan what I wanted to do after 5 years. ⁠⁠⁠I make long term plans, but never plan what specific thing I want to do.
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Question 154): ⁠⁠⁠What are you most thankful for?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Rationality
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Question 155): ⁠⁠⁠Do you believe in second chances?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I believe many more chances
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Question 156): ⁠⁠⁠How do you define honesty?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Valuing word that is given more than many other things.
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Question 157): ⁠⁠⁠What you are trying to prove to yourself,  and how might it be hijacking your life and business success?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Was trying to prove that I can create interesting products. I won’t consider life as something that is not me. So trying to prove it self is life. In business for losses till now. But its okey. We did what we could. ⁠⁠⁠Never tried to prove anything that is not part of my regular life or business
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Question 158): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the next big thing you have coming up?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nothing concrete yet. Still in planning and preparation stages. ⁠⁠⁠Mostly AR + ML
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Question 159): ⁠⁠⁠Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Middle
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Question 160): ⁠⁠⁠Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything?
Ans: No one person to talk to all aspects. Mostly ⁠⁠⁠Wife and Kisor.
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Question 161): ⁠⁠⁠What is one quality you admire most in others?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Passion to learn and improve.
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Question 162): ⁠⁠⁠What is something you learned in school that you think is useless today?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Telugu
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Question 163): ⁠⁠⁠Is your favourite time is past,    present or future?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Future
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Question 164): ⁠⁠⁠What is the main thing that makes you unique?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No one thing makes any one unique. It is the mixture is unique. ⁠⁠⁠One thing I mainly noticed recently is the ability to question others when every one else is thinking opposite to you.
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Question 165): ⁠⁠⁠What does it mean to have courage?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Courage is doing things knowing that it may fail
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Question 166): ⁠⁠⁠If we learn from our mistakes,  why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Very less number of people learn from mistakes. Also those who learn from mistakes are not afraid. Also people who are afraid to make mistakes, think that they have some thing more to loose than gain if they make mistake.
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Question 167): ⁠⁠⁠What is your idea? You agree with learning from mistakes?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Yes, but lifetime is no enough if we have to learn in that way. There are much more easier ways, learn from other peoples mistakes.⁠⁠⁠People write about it books, articles etc. talk to them and see if there is anything to learn. Also no matter what we read some mistakes we have to do ourself. As no two people are same and what you feel in once situation is not same as what other person feels.
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Question 168): ⁠⁠⁠How do you know your perceptions are real?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠We can not know. We just have to trust the perceptions. Scientifically there is no proven way to know. ⁠⁠⁠If there are other people then you can know from them. But in that case real or not depends on if your perceptions are same as them. we can never know if both arte real or not.
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Question 169): ⁠⁠⁠What are you like when you don’t get what you want?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Little irritated. Will try to plan a different way of getting, and after long time may be accept that I can not get it.
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Question 170): ⁠⁠⁠Do you make your own decisions or let others make them for you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I make my own on important issues. Anything non important I delegate. ⁠⁠⁠Also it depends on the capacity of the people around me. if I find some one better for the task, I prefer to delegate. ⁠⁠⁠Trust on their capacity is needed.
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Question 171): ⁠⁠⁠What is the truth and reality according to you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Truth is fact. Reality is the base line perception that we all combinely establish as fact.
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Question 172): ⁠⁠⁠Is it easier to love or be loved?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠It is easier to love. ⁠⁠⁠Anything in our control is easy, and anything not in our control is difficult.
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Question 173): ⁠⁠⁠Does observation alter an event?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Except in quantum mechanics, I believe it does not alter in other aspects.
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Question 174): ⁠⁠⁠Are you open to new ways of looking at things even if they conflict with your own opinions?
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Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Always open to look in new ways. If it is with a person, I am willing if other person have spent more time studying it. If they are just followers of a particular belief then mostly I wont pay much attention to them. ⁠⁠⁠Not interested in looking in new ways of scientifically proven topics..  More interested in any other non scientific aspects. (people, relations)
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Question 175): ⁠⁠⁠What would you do differently if you knew no body would judge you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠1. Will not iron my dress. 2. Will not change my way of talking. I will be more frank 3. Will ask many more girls for dating. 4. May be will remove all hair, (on head)
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Question 176): ⁠⁠⁠Now you are stopping to ask for date because Someone will judgr you?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠That is the only reason, otherwise why will I stop.
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Question 177): ⁠⁠⁠Is there something you stopped doing,  even though you love it?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Not anything that I can recollect. Even if there is something, it might be with other people and only reason I stopped doing might be because other person is not interested. it might be talking or friendship or doing some things together.
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Question 178): ⁠⁠⁠When is it time to stop calculating risk & rewards, and just go ahead do what you know is right?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠only when you don’t know how to calculate or there is not enough time to calculate.
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Question 179): ⁠⁠⁠Are you doing what you believe in or Are you settling for what you are doing?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I am doing what I believe in.
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Question 180): ⁠⁠⁠If money cannot buy happiness. Can you ever be truly happy with no money?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Money can buy happiness to some extent. Also it is good at giving short term happiness. Ans yes it is possible to be happy with no money if at least you have basic needs met. But without basic needs address, no I dont think it is possible to be happy. Again here also same rule applies. it may be possible to have short term happiness even if you are hungry and poor. But long term happiness needs basic requirements. After that it shifts the other way.
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Question 181): ⁠⁠⁠That means you agree with money can buy happiness in some cases, right?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Yes. I believe that. It depends on the present state of the person. And what kind of happiness we are looking for.
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Question 182): ⁠⁠⁠But not that money only can buy happiness, Right?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Right. after having lots of money, an apple will give more pleasure than getting 1000$.
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Question 183): ⁠⁠⁠What advice would you give to someone just starting out trying to do what you’re doing?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Keep your expenses to a level so that you can get that much by doing what you want to do. ⁠⁠⁠Then try to get the enjoyment from what ever they like doing. Concentrate on process and not goal. If no money is there in bank, then pay insurance for sure.
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Question 184): ⁠⁠⁠If you had to choose a totally different career/path,  what would it be?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I would prefer to be a doctor. Not a certified person by some organization, but a self made doctor and a bio medical researcher.
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Question 185): ⁠⁠⁠What do you dream about most often?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I don’t remember my dreams. I day dream about the outcomes of my projects and also about girls 🙂
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Question 186): ⁠⁠⁠How’s it different than you expected?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠no difference
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Question 187): ⁠⁠⁠What are 5 things you want more of right now? (could be physical things,  characteristics,  ideas, anything)
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠1. Math Skills, 2. Companions 3. Little more patience when dealing with people
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Question 188): ⁠⁠⁠No more?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠nope.
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Question 189): ⁠⁠⁠If crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else,  what would you want to know?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nothing.
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Question 190): ⁠⁠⁠Is it worse to fail at something  or never attempt it in the first place?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Never attempting in first place.
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Question 191): ⁠⁠⁠Where is the line between insanity and creativity?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠If you can make other people believe in your insanity, then it is called creativity. Else it remains as insanity.
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Question 192): ⁠⁠⁠Should people care more about doing the right thing or doing things right?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠doing the right things.
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Question 193): ⁠⁠⁠What is your current state of mind?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠hungry.
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Question 194): ⁠⁠⁠What is your motto?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Dont have one. Maybe “enjoy life”.
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Question 195): ⁠⁠⁠Is there a type of work environment you prefer?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠yes, where people will work even if they are not being paid for doing it.
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Question 196): ⁠⁠⁠What is your most marked characteristic?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠’Naluguriki Nachinadi nakasaleika nachaduro’. May be not that much extent, but mostly thinking different and doing different.
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Question 197): ⁠⁠⁠What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠This one is covered before. Running Vimukti this long.
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Question 198): ⁠⁠⁠Are you an emotional person or a materialistic person?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I am not both of these.
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Question 199): ⁠⁠⁠Tell me the best way you know to start a conversation with girls?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I don’t think I know even one way
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Question 200): ⁠⁠⁠What are you doing to know? Reading books?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Nope, I have one new idea. Can not tell it now. Will tell you later
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Question 201): ⁠⁠⁠Something that you look forward to in the future? what is it?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠being able to have same level of optimism for ever
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Question 202): ⁠⁠⁠Do you believe that a girl should always earn less than her man? 😉
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I prefer the opposite. Always it is my dream to enjoy with my girl’s money. 🙂
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Question 203): ⁠⁠⁠Do you ever dream of winning nobel prize?  If yes,  for what?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠No, I don’t think I am worth.
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Question 204): ⁠⁠⁠What do you think about livein relationship?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Looking forward to it.
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Question 205): ⁠⁠⁠what is your opinion on it?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠It is good. I prefer it to more than marriage. ⁠⁠⁠It is nothing different than marriage. only that marriage is for external people. (and law). other than that every thing else remains same. ⁠⁠⁠And actually it makes people more careful in choosing the partner.
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Question 206): ⁠⁠⁠But marriage will be with single girl. ⁠⁠⁠In Livein you can choose multiple.⁠⁠⁠There is difference in marriage and livein. What do u say?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠That is why I prefer live in. if it is multiple or not.⁠⁠⁠And I prefer multiple people, I don’t think the basic need for which we marry someone can only be satisfied if it is only one person.
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Question 207): ⁠⁠⁠So you choose live in
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Yes, ⁠⁠⁠I got married before I came to this conclusion.
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Question 208): ⁠⁠⁠Otherwise you would have asked for live in?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Marriage is financial insurance. Most people dont need that. ⁠⁠⁠Yes.
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Question 209): ⁠⁠⁠But if she didnt agreed for livein? ⁠⁠⁠Will u compromise?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠May be that is why I did. And it depends on the person.
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Question 210): ⁠⁠⁠What is the most expensive thing that you have bought for yourself?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Surface Pro 3. Around 60k
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Question 211): ⁠⁠⁠Bought to others?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Bought Laptop and IPad to wife
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Question 212): ⁠⁠⁠How do you define good relationship?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Having lot of trust in each other, understanding each other with single word, or some times without words.
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Question 213): ⁠⁠⁠Who has had the most influence in your life?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠This is already covered. Mostly my brother.
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Question 214): ⁠⁠⁠What is the worst advice you’ve ever taken?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Buy a house. Oh sorry. never taken any. ⁠⁠⁠Just they gave.
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Question 215): ⁠⁠⁠Why you feel it as worst?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠It is worst for me. I don’t need a house, It is just some place to live. We can not eat a house. I don’t get happiness from it. And even if I get, I don’t need to buy it, I can get it much cheaper if I rent it. ⁠⁠⁠Also I don’t understand, if people spend 30 lakhs for a just cement, how much they should spend on internal things? Normally they spend around 5lakhs for furniture. I think I want it to have 50:50.
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Question 216): ⁠⁠⁠What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Don’t remember.
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Question 217): ⁠⁠⁠So no idea buy a house
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠nope
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Question 218): ⁠⁠⁠What do you think about the current state of economy?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠I don’t think about it.
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Question 219): ⁠⁠⁠What the habit you’re proudest of breaking completely?
Ans: ⁠⁠⁠Never had any habits that are worth breaking.
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— These are question from another friend —

Question 220): If you are asked not to work on anything related to IT what would you like to do for a living.
Ans: I will become a doctor. Bio Medical Research + Genetic engineering etc

Question 221): If you are alone in an island and it’s forever how would you spend a day?
Ans: 2hrs exercise, 3hrs gathering food, 2hrs cooking, 8 hrs sleeping, rest of the time building/making something.

Question 222): If a girl/guy has 100 rs how do you want her to use it. Different or same is fine
Ans: I would assume to be spent in same way. What ever does not make sense for a guy, mostly will not make sense for a girl too.

Question 223): What do u think r the good and bad things of Indian marriage
Ans: The good thing is, You don’t have to work too hard to find good match. Others will do that for you. But that applies if you are lazy enough not to make the most important decision in your life. Bad thing is, most of the people in that marriage think it is something that should not be broken. Some spend endless years of internal suffering while trying to ask to look happy for outsiders. I don’t think it is specific to Indian Marriage. It applies to anyone who values others opinion more than their own.

Question 224): Other than technology what can a girl/guy learn by spending time with you?
Ans: Very good question. Ability to question things, learning when to question and how to question. Meaning of life, rational decision making, how to be driven in life, how to be happy, how to look from other person’s perspective, empathy and seeing things in 3rd person’s view.